"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I just learned one of if not the most important thing.

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I was at work (catering) and had good vibes from these two girls and it seemed as if they were interested and since I was busy couldnt talk with them.Alright I had a chance or two but it was very slight.I kept telling myself "just wait you will get a better chance later" since its a wedding.Also these two seemed pretty bored out of their mind.

Well guess what?

THERE WAS NO GREATER OPPORTUNITY!

After I had gone on my break not even close to end of the wedding,they had gone.Yep Im not pissed obviously since I dont even know how much they liked me but just knowing that I should have just gone for it instead of waiting just killlllllllllllllllllllls me inside.

So bottom line,dont be an idiot like me and wait for something better to come along. Because something better might come if you wait (and it will happen to the GIRLS instead of YOU). Sometimes you may get lucky like I have before but I guess what Im trying to say is create the opportunity instead of trying your luck.

Lol haha please someone share their stories im sure someone here has made this mistake like I have
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i know what you mean, and I know how you feel, and it sucks so bad. If anything good came from this is that the next time an opportunity arises, you seize that moment. Live today and die tomorrow.
 
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Haha yeah that's what tends to happen. The most important thing is that you LEARN from your mistake - next time you're in that sort of situation remember how badly you regretted not approaching on this occasion!
 
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Yeah welcome to the last six years of my life!

Any approach opportunity that doesn't involve jumping through a plane of glass or swinging from an electric cable, is a A-1-100% perfect opportunity.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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