"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I just found I'm testosterone deficient

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I had a blood test at my doc the other day 2/28. Found out my test level is 209 and the normal levels are between 264-916 (ng/dl)
It was in the 400's in June so it dipped down


I'm disappointed because:


-I'm not even 25 yet
-I don't masturbate
-I go to the gym but barely started lifting consistently this week as I've been doing heavy cardio few times a week the last few months to lose weight and just now got on a beginner full body workout plan I'm going to try my best to stick to the next 6 months
-Having low test makes me feel kind of insecure because of the fact itself if you knew me in person you wouldn't ever think of me as a wuss,"beta",etc.Any thing but.Isn't low test suppose to make a man less masculine in energy/vibe/mannerisms?? Maybe I'm overtaking it..

HOWEVER I THINK IT'S LOW BECAUSE:

-I take prescription amphetamines for my ADD and I read stims increase stress
/cortisol levels which decreases test levels...I've also upped caffeine a lot too last couple months. I'm going to stop the caffeine and switch ltyrosine if i still need something besides the prescribed pill I take every few hours
-I read somewhere too much cardio reduces test
-Too much junk food in diet...which I've been doing alot too reduces test
-lack of consistent 6+ hours of sleep. Party because of taking caffeine/medicine and supposedly chronic lack of sleep decreases test levels as well.

I'm going to make an appt with doc to discuss test replacement therapy temporarily till it's back up again. I took testosterone injections as a bodybuilding drug in 2012 at 500mg/week for 12 weeks just to experiment with steroids its also the only time. Supposedly that's what they prescribe for low T as well but more like 100-200 mg/week and only till it's normal?? Idk..

I'm going to be bummed if my doc doesn't want to prescribe cause he thinks I'm going and can bring it up naturally or because it's a controlled drug just like the add med he prescribes.



What's your take on my situation?? I'd like ppl that know the subject well and workout consistently to chime in!
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It could be many things effecting your test levels . I would recommend starting to lift heavy weights and cut down the cardio. Definently get more sleep. Also supplement with ZMA it is pretty cheap and may make up for some if the nutrients your not getting from your regular diet. And stress is definitely a testosterone killer.
 

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I have never had mine tested but I know when I am cutting weight and have my diet below maintenance my sex drive plummets. I would not be considering hrt at 25 unless it was almost non existent. I would do several things, start eating more fats, eliminating long bouts of cardio, do more HIIT and circuits.. and start doing heavy compound movements, squats, deadlifts, cleans, snatches.
 

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If your cutting that will definitely lower your testosterone I've been cutting for a while and my sex drive is gone I have even gone a week without wanking it.
 

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Stop all those meds or any drugs.

Sleep early.

Exercise more.

Ur body will adjust accordingly.

Low T levels will phuck ur body biologically.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stop all those meds or any drugs.

Sleep early.

Exercise more.

Ur body will adjust accordingly.

Low T levels will phuck ur body biologically.
I can't just stop these meds they make me high functioning which I'm not without it. Besides I was taking them even with levels at 400 range.

Sleep tho hell Yea!
I have never had mine tested but I know when I am cutting weight and have my diet below maintenance my sex drive plummets. I would not be considering hrt at 25 unless it was almost non existent. I would do several things, start eating more fats, eliminating long bouts of cardio, do more HIIT and circuits.. and start doing heavy compound movements, squats, deadlifts, cleans, snatches.
Why shouldn't I consider hrt? I know it might eff me up long term but I don't mind injecting the rest of my life or next few months/years if it keeps me healthy and happy and energetic.
 

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I can't just stop these meds they make me high functioning which I'm not without it. Besides I was taking them even with levels at 400 range.

Sleep tho hell Yea!

Why shouldn't I consider hrt? I know it might eff me up long term but I don't mind injecting the rest of my life or next few months/years if it keeps me healthy and happy and energetic.
I was diagnosed in my early 30's as a diabetic - heavy drinking

My blood sugar was in the range of 20-30. Doctors told me I need lifelong medications.

I dump those diabetic meds and went on a sugar free diet and started exercises, a year later I'm no longer a diabetic.
 

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Masturbating is some form of exercise if you don't masturbate your sex drive will be lower which will affect your hormone. Your sex drive comes from your imagination so is masturbating, it's a medical fact.
 

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I was diagnosed in my early 30's as a diabetic - heavy drinking

My blood sugar was in the range of 20-30. Doctors told me I need lifelong medications.

I dump those diabetic meds and went on a sugar free diet and started exercises, a year later I'm no longer a diabetic.
Yep. It's incredibly easy to say, but incredibly hard to execute. It ain't rocket science.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I had a blood test at my doc the other day 2/28. Found out my test level is 209 and the normal levels are between 264-916 (ng/dl)
It was in the 400's in June so it dipped down


I'm disappointed because:


-I'm not even 25 yet
-I don't masturbate
-I go to the gym but barely started lifting consistently this week as I've been doing heavy cardio few times a week the last few months to lose weight and just now got on a beginner full body workout plan I'm going to try my best to stick to the next 6 months
-Having low test makes me feel kind of insecure because of the fact itself if you knew me in person you wouldn't ever think of me as a wuss,"beta",etc.Any thing but.Isn't low test suppose to make a man less masculine in energy/vibe/mannerisms?? Maybe I'm overtaking it..

HOWEVER I THINK IT'S LOW BECAUSE:

-I take prescription amphetamines for my ADD and I read stims increase stress
/cortisol levels which decreases test levels...I've also upped caffeine a lot too last couple months. I'm going to stop the caffeine and switch ltyrosine if i still need something besides the prescribed pill I take every few hours
-I read somewhere too much cardio reduces test
-Too much junk food in diet...which I've been doing alot too reduces test
-lack of consistent 6+ hours of sleep. Party because of taking caffeine/medicine and supposedly chronic lack of sleep decreases test levels as well.

I'm going to make an appt with doc to discuss test replacement therapy temporarily till it's back up again. I took testosterone injections as a bodybuilding drug in 2012 at 500mg/week for 12 weeks just to experiment with steroids its also the only time. Supposedly that's what they prescribe for low T as well but more like 100-200 mg/week and only till it's normal?? Idk..

I'm going to be bummed if my doc doesn't want to prescribe cause he thinks I'm going and can bring it up naturally or because it's a controlled drug just like the add med he prescribes.



What's your take on my situation?? I'd like ppl that know the subject well and workout consistently to chime in!

i sometimes think i have low T levels

but i have big gains

so who cares
 

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Ditch the ADD medicine. In fact, remove those meds from your house and/or destroy them. So tired of hearing all these young guys my age saying they take anxiety meds and such, when I as a matter of fact took none such medicines yet overcame similar problems.

Your body is conditioned to need those drugs and you need to start convincing it that it doesn't.
 

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If you take synthetic testosterone you will shut down your system. You are too young - there are different things you can try before you ultimately go down that route.
 

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I can't just stop these meds they make me high functioning which I'm not without it. Besides I was taking them even with levels at 400 range.

Sleep tho hell Yea!

Why shouldn't I consider hrt? I know it might eff me up long term but I don't mind injecting the rest of my life or next few months/years if it keeps me healthy and happy and energetic.
I wouldn't want to tell you what to do with you ADHD meds, BUT.... I was diagnosed with ADD, (so minus the hyperactive part), and took those meds too. They fvcked me right up. I wasn't the same. So I stopped immediately.

And you know what? - I can manage my ADD just fine now, without meds. What I do is; make sure I get a good nights sleep, eat clean, and exercise. That's it. I still have my moments where I can't focus well, but I get up, go for a little walk, stretch out a bit, have a glass of water, and get back to work.

You might want to consider this
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It's hard to overstate the benefits of physical work (whether that is lifting weights, outdoor labor), getting the proper nutrients in your diet, and sleep. I think you can overcome most things if you just concentrate on the items above.

- Work: Use your big muscles, somehow. Lift things, make your body stronger. Easiest way is to lift weights.
- Diet: Eat your good fats (don't gorge, that is bro science, just get 'enough') and eat vegetables or take a multivitamin to your nutrients. Eat some meat, not too much, and eat a lot of beans and nuts.
- Sleep: Try to get 8 hours of solid sleep, turn off the TV and iphone, read a book before bed, and go to bed at a decent hour, and wake at a decent hour. Nothing good happens at night in public places anyway, I wish I'd known that when I was younger. Nighttime means trouble.
 

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It's hard to overstate the benefits of physical work (whether that is lifting weights, outdoor labor), getting the proper nutrients in your diet, and sleep. I think you can overcome most things if you just concentrate on the items above.

- Work: Use your big muscles, somehow. Lift things, make your body stronger. Easiest way is to lift weights.
- Diet: Eat your good fats (don't gorge, that is bro science, just get 'enough') and eat vegetables or take a multivitamin to your nutrients. Eat some meat, not too much, and eat a lot of beans and nuts.
- Sleep: Try to get 8 hours of solid sleep, turn off the TV and iphone, read a book before bed, and go to bed at a decent hour, and wake at a decent hour. Nothing good happens at night in public places anyway, I wish I'd known that when I was younger. Nighttime means trouble.
The sleep especially is important. I believe I have read that even just getting 5-6 hours only is enough to make your T dip over the course of time. You definitely want to sleep as much possible
 

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Maybe u need to be on TRT...talk to a doctor about it. Depends on wherw you are in the usa it should be fine...in Canada well forget about it.
 

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Maybe u need to be on TRT...talk to a doctor about it. Depends on wherw you are in the usa it should be fine...in Canada well forget about it.
I'm not a black helicopter conspiracy guy, so I don't think there's some sinister group controlling things, but I do think there are people who take advantage of the reality of the situation. And the reality is, T levels are dropping, and low T males are easy to control. Nobody is going to advocate for higher T levels.
 

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For sleep, I take Magnesium Threonate (expensive) then read a book. Read manly authors like William E Woodward (moderately easy) or Eric Hoffer (complex).
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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