I've been married to my wife now for 1 and a half years. We have had a lot of issues in our marriage, a lot of fights, and a lot of drama. But even after all that I still love her. Just last saturday she and the kids flew to germany, where my in-laws live, to visit. Last night I went out with some friends and ran into my one friend's GF. She and I have always flirted but nothing more until last night. I drank well beyond my fair share of alcohol and wound up sleeping with her. The trouble about this is that I feel guilty a little bit for cheating on my wife and even more guilty because I slammed my buddie's girlfriend. I dunno what to do, I know I can't tell my wife, and I really don't feel like getting punched in the face. Not that I would blame him. And this isn't the first time it's happened, I got drunk before and did this with a random stranger a while ago. I don't know if it's that I don't want to face the fact that my marriage sucks and just let loose whenever I drink or what, but something has to give. If anyone has any good advice I'm all ears.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I just cheated, what do I do?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Hmmmmm
This post seems awfuly fishy...I'm not sure if this is a real question or not...
I'm callin for a vote!
Who says this thread is legit or not?
This post seems awfuly fishy...I'm not sure if this is a real question or not...
I'm callin for a vote!
Who says this thread is legit or not?
KarmaSutra
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Whether it's real or not is irrelevant. This has happened to more than one brother and merits a response.
If you don't want her to know, keep your trap shut. Forever.
If you want to hurt her, let her know.
Those are your only alternatives.
You did it. Live with it.
If you don't want her to know, keep your trap shut. Forever.
If you want to hurt her, let her know.
Those are your only alternatives.
You did it. Live with it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
iqqi
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Get a divorce, then go find yourself.
Gustav Yavo
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Treat it like a murder scene. Wash your cok with bleach to kill any evidence. Burn the condom along with the sheets you had sex on. The perform a self circumsision so that if there are any witnesses they will not recognize the culprit.
Ye i really dont think this poster is legit, but for the case that im wrong, your a MAN, you did something wrong, live with it and any of the consequences that may come your way.
Ye i really dont think this poster is legit, but for the case that im wrong, your a MAN, you did something wrong, live with it and any of the consequences that may come your way.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
The choices you make in life define you.
It doesn't matter if she ever finds out. It is something YOU DID, and therefor YOU have to live with the way you are. If being a cheater, a liar, or a man who does not honor his vows and or honor his word, is something that you don't want to be, then you need to do some soul searching, and make that change.
Do you like... The man in the mirror!? (Insert some Michael Jackson noises).
It doesn't matter if she ever finds out. It is something YOU DID, and therefor YOU have to live with the way you are. If being a cheater, a liar, or a man who does not honor his vows and or honor his word, is something that you don't want to be, then you need to do some soul searching, and make that change.
Do you like... The man in the mirror!? (Insert some Michael Jackson noises).
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Be a man. Take responsibility for your actions, because this stuff always seems to come back around. If she finds out from anyone other than you, you're f*cked.
Tell your wife and tell your friend. Let your friend punch your lights out because you deserve it. Let your wife decide whether to stay with you or not. Hopefully she won't if she has any self-respect, and you deserve that, too.
Prodigy746
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THIS IS WHAT FREAKING HAPPENS WHEN PEOPLE GET MARRIED BEFORE THEY ARE READY. I really want to know this
How old were you when you got married?
How many girls did you sleep before you got married?
How long did you date your wife before you married her?
How old were you when you got married?
How many girls did you sleep before you got married?
How long did you date your wife before you married her?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
KontrollerX
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What do you do?
Get out of this marriage and stop living a lie and pretending you are in love with this woman.
You may of been once but you clearly aren't anymore.
You already fvcked two other people and you're probably not going to stop hooking up with randoms so why keep wasting your wife's time or yours in this farce of a marriage?
Get out of this marriage and stop living a lie and pretending you are in love with this woman.
You may of been once but you clearly aren't anymore.
You already fvcked two other people and you're probably not going to stop hooking up with randoms so why keep wasting your wife's time or yours in this farce of a marriage?
amoka said:
I am not blaming this on anyone but myself, alcohol is never an excuse. I just wrote in detail to sort of fill in the blanks.
And as far as deserving to be punched out and have her leave; after a lot of thought and reading different peoples views on this, its absolutley true. I did the worst thing I could think of doing and not only did I hurt my wife again but I also just ruined a friendship. And for anyone who wants to know, I did get punched in the face.
drmeathead
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KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT ABOUT THIS. IF YOU ARE EVER CONFRONTED DENY DENY DENY. IF THE CHICK YOU ****ED WOULD TELL YOUR WIFE. TELL YOUR WIFE YOU DENYED HER AND THIS IS SOME CRAZY SCHEME TO RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE TO GET BACK AT YUO AND THAT YOU LOVE HER. UNLESS THERE IS A VIDEO RUNNING ON YOUPORN IT NEVER HAPPENED...GET IT?
for the record i dont agree with what you did but since you asked for advice and not a morality check i offfered my thoughts above.
for the record i dont agree with what you did but since you asked for advice and not a morality check i offfered my thoughts above.
temptation is notoriously hard to conquer, the best thing you can do is just avoid the temptation long enough so you can build up enough strength not to give into it later. this is your wife man, it's time for you to change your ways. but as long as you want change first its fine, nothing too much to worry about. the worst she can do is divorce you.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.