I've been married to my wife now for 1 and a half years. We have had a lot of issues in our marriage, a lot of fights, and a lot of drama. But even after all that I still love her. Just last saturday she and the kids flew to germany, where my in-laws live, to visit. Last night I went out with some friends and ran into my one friend's GF. She and I have always flirted but nothing more until last night. I drank well beyond my fair share of alcohol and wound up sleeping with her. The trouble about this is that I feel guilty a little bit for cheating on my wife and even more guilty because I slammed my buddie's girlfriend. I dunno what to do, I know I can't tell my wife, and I really don't feel like getting punched in the face. Not that I would blame him. And this isn't the first time it's happened, I got drunk before and did this with a random stranger a while ago. I don't know if it's that I don't want to face the fact that my marriage sucks and just let loose whenever I drink or what, but something has to give. If anyone has any good advice I'm all ears.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I just cheated, what do I do?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PRMoon
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Hmmmmm
This post seems awfuly fishy...I'm not sure if this is a real question or not...
I'm callin for a vote!
Who says this thread is legit or not?
This post seems awfuly fishy...I'm not sure if this is a real question or not...
I'm callin for a vote!
Who says this thread is legit or not?
KarmaSutra
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Whether it's real or not is irrelevant. This has happened to more than one brother and merits a response.
If you don't want her to know, keep your trap shut. Forever.
If you want to hurt her, let her know.
Those are your only alternatives.
You did it. Live with it.
If you don't want her to know, keep your trap shut. Forever.
If you want to hurt her, let her know.
Those are your only alternatives.
You did it. Live with it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
iqqi
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Get a divorce, then go find yourself.
Gustav Yavo
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Treat it like a murder scene. Wash your cok with bleach to kill any evidence. Burn the condom along with the sheets you had sex on. The perform a self circumsision so that if there are any witnesses they will not recognize the culprit.
Ye i really dont think this poster is legit, but for the case that im wrong, your a MAN, you did something wrong, live with it and any of the consequences that may come your way.
Ye i really dont think this poster is legit, but for the case that im wrong, your a MAN, you did something wrong, live with it and any of the consequences that may come your way.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
The choices you make in life define you.
It doesn't matter if she ever finds out. It is something YOU DID, and therefor YOU have to live with the way you are. If being a cheater, a liar, or a man who does not honor his vows and or honor his word, is something that you don't want to be, then you need to do some soul searching, and make that change.
Do you like... The man in the mirror!? (Insert some Michael Jackson noises).
It doesn't matter if she ever finds out. It is something YOU DID, and therefor YOU have to live with the way you are. If being a cheater, a liar, or a man who does not honor his vows and or honor his word, is something that you don't want to be, then you need to do some soul searching, and make that change.
Do you like... The man in the mirror!? (Insert some Michael Jackson noises).
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
splinterkb
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Be a man. Take responsibility for your actions, because this stuff always seems to come back around. If she finds out from anyone other than you, you're f*cked.
Tell your wife and tell your friend. Let your friend punch your lights out because you deserve it. Let your wife decide whether to stay with you or not. Hopefully she won't if she has any self-respect, and you deserve that, too.
Prodigy746
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THIS IS WHAT FREAKING HAPPENS WHEN PEOPLE GET MARRIED BEFORE THEY ARE READY. I really want to know this
How old were you when you got married?
How many girls did you sleep before you got married?
How long did you date your wife before you married her?
How old were you when you got married?
How many girls did you sleep before you got married?
How long did you date your wife before you married her?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
KontrollerX
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What do you do?
Get out of this marriage and stop living a lie and pretending you are in love with this woman.
You may of been once but you clearly aren't anymore.
You already fvcked two other people and you're probably not going to stop hooking up with randoms so why keep wasting your wife's time or yours in this farce of a marriage?
Get out of this marriage and stop living a lie and pretending you are in love with this woman.
You may of been once but you clearly aren't anymore.
You already fvcked two other people and you're probably not going to stop hooking up with randoms so why keep wasting your wife's time or yours in this farce of a marriage?
amoka said:
I am not blaming this on anyone but myself, alcohol is never an excuse. I just wrote in detail to sort of fill in the blanks.
And as far as deserving to be punched out and have her leave; after a lot of thought and reading different peoples views on this, its absolutley true. I did the worst thing I could think of doing and not only did I hurt my wife again but I also just ruined a friendship. And for anyone who wants to know, I did get punched in the face.
drmeathead
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KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT ABOUT THIS. IF YOU ARE EVER CONFRONTED DENY DENY DENY. IF THE CHICK YOU ****ED WOULD TELL YOUR WIFE. TELL YOUR WIFE YOU DENYED HER AND THIS IS SOME CRAZY SCHEME TO RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE TO GET BACK AT YUO AND THAT YOU LOVE HER. UNLESS THERE IS A VIDEO RUNNING ON YOUPORN IT NEVER HAPPENED...GET IT?
for the record i dont agree with what you did but since you asked for advice and not a morality check i offfered my thoughts above.
for the record i dont agree with what you did but since you asked for advice and not a morality check i offfered my thoughts above.
temptation is notoriously hard to conquer, the best thing you can do is just avoid the temptation long enough so you can build up enough strength not to give into it later. this is your wife man, it's time for you to change your ways. but as long as you want change first its fine, nothing too much to worry about. the worst she can do is divorce you.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.