"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I hurt some girl I love by being insecure and needy.

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Hello guys, I am not really sure if this is the right place to post such thing, this is my first post, so bear with me. thank you in advance.
I'm a 20 years old male, I've been in a LTR with a girl, we had a good connection online through whatsapp and facebook.
As a jealous man, I did the most stupid thing, I made a fake account to see if she's loyal. she ended up knowing it, now I lost the girl, she was hurt now she doesn't want to talk with me.
I tried the no contact challenge, but it only make it worst.
I want to go to her college so we can talk, but I am afraid I will only make things worst, so yeah you got me guys, I want my ex back.
I don't want this to end here. thank you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yes She was, she actually told me everything I wanted to hear, then she changed the way she talks, like, wait, please stop this game, I know who you are. then she sent me a message on my other account, to tell me how childish it was, man I feel so guilty, I ****ed up.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You did something wrong, so you should apologize if you haven't already and tell her why you felt the way you did. If you don't know, start with that before trying to date women.
 
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You did something wrong, so you should apologize if you haven't already and tell her why you felt the way you did. If you don't know, start with that before trying to date women.
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Yes, exactly, I'm not thinking about dating someone right now, but I want to talk to her, I know she isn't going to stop falling for me right away So I have my chance to take this to a serious level..
I just don't know, I don't feel like explaining myself, cause girls don't read long texts after they got their heart broken.
 
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mdj said:
Yes man I did. twice!
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Oh G.....man come on you are 20 years old now...did u kiss her atleast?if not,dafuq are you so attached to then?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In the words of someone here... you dont mean anything to her until you have had sex...

You went from nothing to whatever is less than that...

Chalk it up as a learning experience...
 
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No one here is going to give you the answer you're looking for, since you have expectations of what you want to happen.

Learn from it, move on.
 
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enough about one-on-one women love every girls type: literally
 
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she is not you EX, she is a girl who you meet online(not a good start) and freaked her out with this kinda of thing, you both had nothing and you make this much effort to see if she is cheating you (wonder how any of this could be)there was nothing to it, nothing

learn from this and go out, meet REAL woman close to you, 20 years you should be in college studing and having fun when possible, serious that much effort from a girl you don't even know, from what any of us would know could ahve a real BF close to her and you was just for validation purpose

I also ask since you find this forum and read the DJ bible, learn from it, take advantage youa re still young enough to learn it fast and put it to use as soon as possible
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your problem isn't what you did, it's taht you cared too much to even consider doing it. My advice to you is go date as many girls as you can and let them worry about you. When you lock into of chick like this you become a weak @ss b!tch.
 
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mdj said:
Yes man I did. twice!
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Met her twice and now you want to get your "ex" back.

Sorry but it's not happening. She's met you twice. And in those two meetings, you've already shown some sketchy characteristics.

Accept it as a lesson learned and move on. Not what you wanted to hear, but life's just tough sometimes.

Best thing to do would be to try meeting other girls. Any way, any how. This one's over.
 
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mdj said:
Hello guys, I am not really sure if this is the right place to post such thing, this is my first post, so bear with me. thank you in advance.
I'm a 20 years old male, I've been in a LTR with a girl, we had a good connection online through whatsapp and facebook.
As a jealous man, I did the most stupid thing, I made a fake account to see if she's loyal. she ended up knowing it, now I lost the girl, she was hurt now she doesn't want to talk with me.
I tried the no contact challenge, but it only make it worst.
I want to go to her college so we can talk, but I am afraid I will only make things worst, so yeah you got me guys, I want my ex back.
I don't want this to end here. thank you.
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You don't want what to end here?

Actually, it hasn't ended - your stalking her that is.

If you only saw her twice and only kissed her once this is not a Long Term Relationship. Did you mean Long Distance Relationship?

How exactly can a girl you've never really dated be loyal?? This takes expecting a commitment to a new level.

Also, it's "make it worse", not worst.
 
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mdj said:
Hello guys, I am not really sure if this is the right place to post such thing, this is my first post, so bear with me. thank you in advance.
I'm a 20 years old male, I've been in a LTR with a girl, we had a good connection online through whatsapp and facebook.
As a jealous man, I did the most stupid thing, I made a fake account to see if she's loyal. she ended up knowing it, now I lost the girl, she was hurt now she doesn't want to talk with me.
I tried the no contact challenge, but it only make it worst.
I want to go to her college so we can talk, but I am afraid I will only make things worst, so yeah you got me guys, I want my ex back.
I don't want this to end here. thank you.
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An online relationship?? Give me a break dude.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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