"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I hurt some girl I love by being insecure and needy.

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Hello guys, I am not really sure if this is the right place to post such thing, this is my first post, so bear with me. thank you in advance.
I'm a 20 years old male, I've been in a LTR with a girl, we had a good connection online through whatsapp and facebook.
As a jealous man, I did the most stupid thing, I made a fake account to see if she's loyal. she ended up knowing it, now I lost the girl, she was hurt now she doesn't want to talk with me.
I tried the no contact challenge, but it only make it worst.
I want to go to her college so we can talk, but I am afraid I will only make things worst, so yeah you got me guys, I want my ex back.
I don't want this to end here. thank you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yes She was, she actually told me everything I wanted to hear, then she changed the way she talks, like, wait, please stop this game, I know who you are. then she sent me a message on my other account, to tell me how childish it was, man I feel so guilty, I ****ed up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You did something wrong, so you should apologize if you haven't already and tell her why you felt the way you did. If you don't know, start with that before trying to date women.
 
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You did something wrong, so you should apologize if you haven't already and tell her why you felt the way you did. If you don't know, start with that before trying to date women.
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Yes, exactly, I'm not thinking about dating someone right now, but I want to talk to her, I know she isn't going to stop falling for me right away So I have my chance to take this to a serious level..
I just don't know, I don't feel like explaining myself, cause girls don't read long texts after they got their heart broken.
 
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Yes man I did. twice!
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Oh G.....man come on you are 20 years old now...did u kiss her atleast?if not,dafuq are you so attached to then?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In the words of someone here... you dont mean anything to her until you have had sex...

You went from nothing to whatever is less than that...

Chalk it up as a learning experience...
 
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No one here is going to give you the answer you're looking for, since you have expectations of what you want to happen.

Learn from it, move on.
 
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enough about one-on-one women love every girls type: literally
 
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she is not you EX, she is a girl who you meet online(not a good start) and freaked her out with this kinda of thing, you both had nothing and you make this much effort to see if she is cheating you (wonder how any of this could be)there was nothing to it, nothing

learn from this and go out, meet REAL woman close to you, 20 years you should be in college studing and having fun when possible, serious that much effort from a girl you don't even know, from what any of us would know could ahve a real BF close to her and you was just for validation purpose

I also ask since you find this forum and read the DJ bible, learn from it, take advantage youa re still young enough to learn it fast and put it to use as soon as possible
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Your problem isn't what you did, it's taht you cared too much to even consider doing it. My advice to you is go date as many girls as you can and let them worry about you. When you lock into of chick like this you become a weak @ss b!tch.
 
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mdj said:
Yes man I did. twice!
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Met her twice and now you want to get your "ex" back.

Sorry but it's not happening. She's met you twice. And in those two meetings, you've already shown some sketchy characteristics.

Accept it as a lesson learned and move on. Not what you wanted to hear, but life's just tough sometimes.

Best thing to do would be to try meeting other girls. Any way, any how. This one's over.
 
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mdj said:
Hello guys, I am not really sure if this is the right place to post such thing, this is my first post, so bear with me. thank you in advance.
I'm a 20 years old male, I've been in a LTR with a girl, we had a good connection online through whatsapp and facebook.
As a jealous man, I did the most stupid thing, I made a fake account to see if she's loyal. she ended up knowing it, now I lost the girl, she was hurt now she doesn't want to talk with me.
I tried the no contact challenge, but it only make it worst.
I want to go to her college so we can talk, but I am afraid I will only make things worst, so yeah you got me guys, I want my ex back.
I don't want this to end here. thank you.
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You don't want what to end here?

Actually, it hasn't ended - your stalking her that is.

If you only saw her twice and only kissed her once this is not a Long Term Relationship. Did you mean Long Distance Relationship?

How exactly can a girl you've never really dated be loyal?? This takes expecting a commitment to a new level.

Also, it's "make it worse", not worst.
 
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mdj said:
Hello guys, I am not really sure if this is the right place to post such thing, this is my first post, so bear with me. thank you in advance.
I'm a 20 years old male, I've been in a LTR with a girl, we had a good connection online through whatsapp and facebook.
As a jealous man, I did the most stupid thing, I made a fake account to see if she's loyal. she ended up knowing it, now I lost the girl, she was hurt now she doesn't want to talk with me.
I tried the no contact challenge, but it only make it worst.
I want to go to her college so we can talk, but I am afraid I will only make things worst, so yeah you got me guys, I want my ex back.
I don't want this to end here. thank you.
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An online relationship?? Give me a break dude.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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