"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have regretted giving my ex a second chance!

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I have regretted giving my ex second chance hoping that she will change and ended up breaking up with again over something of which was not my fault but made it look like I am the one holding back meanwhile she was the one playing games and talking to guys.
I have noticed that any time she starts to talk to other guys she starts misbehaving and not take our relationship seriously. When I talked about she broke up with me rather. I didn't want to look petty so I walked away deleted her number, blocked her and changed my numbers. She will never hear of me or from me or have any means to get in touch ever again in her life unless she sees me in the news and hear stories about. If I meet her in public I just pass by her not just the way people pass by each in the mall. I just don't want engage in any way and create sort of opportunities for her. To me, we never existed; I don't her and she doesn't know me.

I am tired of trying to make people see the good themselves for some reason they can't control their thoughts and insecurities and I am the problem?!.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You need to live by Iron Rule of Tomassi #7.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

 

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I have regretted giving my ex second chance hoping that she will change...
A girl transforming in some way DOES NOT automatically mean that she'll be healthier/less of a heartache this time around. Case in point
 

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I have regretted giving my ex second chance hoping that she will change and ended up breaking up with again over something of which was not my fault but made it look like I am the one holding back meanwhile she was the one playing games and talking to guys.
I have noticed that any time she starts to talk to other guys she starts misbehaving and not take our relationship seriously. When I talked about she broke up with me rather.
Find a women that you feel is making you priority. This one was making you feel like a looser. Cut her loose, don't look back. If she can get another drop of blood from you she will. Her view of the world does not work well for you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You need to live by Iron Rule of Tomassi #7.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

Somtimes I think you are a bot...beep beep are you?
 

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Somtimes I think you are a bot...beep beep are you?
No -- not a bot. There are times where I do often re-iterate some main red pill talking points. In general, I think the Iron Rules of Tomassi are very good.
 

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Find a women that you feel is making you priority. This one was making you feel like a looser. Cut her loose, don't look back. If she can get another drop of blood from you she will. Her view of the world does not work well for you.
That was my whole point because she was not taking us seriously and when I confronted her with that instead of owning up her actions she decided ending it was the best thing and on top of before she left my apartment one night she was chatting another guy in the middle of the night in presence?! What a disrespect. When I asked she said is nothing and they only talk about anime stuffs.

The things she knows what she is doing but turns it around like I am the one with issues. I am glad this is over and she will see again. To me she is dead or I never met her and I don't know her
 
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