Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I have regretted giving my ex a second chance!

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I have regretted giving my ex second chance hoping that she will change and ended up breaking up with again over something of which was not my fault but made it look like I am the one holding back meanwhile she was the one playing games and talking to guys.
I have noticed that any time she starts to talk to other guys she starts misbehaving and not take our relationship seriously. When I talked about she broke up with me rather. I didn't want to look petty so I walked away deleted her number, blocked her and changed my numbers. She will never hear of me or from me or have any means to get in touch ever again in her life unless she sees me in the news and hear stories about. If I meet her in public I just pass by her not just the way people pass by each in the mall. I just don't want engage in any way and create sort of opportunities for her. To me, we never existed; I don't her and she doesn't know me.

I am tired of trying to make people see the good themselves for some reason they can't control their thoughts and insecurities and I am the problem?!.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You need to live by Iron Rule of Tomassi #7.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

 

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I have regretted giving my ex second chance hoping that she will change...
A girl transforming in some way DOES NOT automatically mean that she'll be healthier/less of a heartache this time around. Case in point
 

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I have regretted giving my ex second chance hoping that she will change and ended up breaking up with again over something of which was not my fault but made it look like I am the one holding back meanwhile she was the one playing games and talking to guys.
I have noticed that any time she starts to talk to other guys she starts misbehaving and not take our relationship seriously. When I talked about she broke up with me rather.
Find a women that you feel is making you priority. This one was making you feel like a looser. Cut her loose, don't look back. If she can get another drop of blood from you she will. Her view of the world does not work well for you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You need to live by Iron Rule of Tomassi #7.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

Somtimes I think you are a bot...beep beep are you?
 

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Somtimes I think you are a bot...beep beep are you?
No -- not a bot. There are times where I do often re-iterate some main red pill talking points. In general, I think the Iron Rules of Tomassi are very good.
 

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Find a women that you feel is making you priority. This one was making you feel like a looser. Cut her loose, don't look back. If she can get another drop of blood from you she will. Her view of the world does not work well for you.
That was my whole point because she was not taking us seriously and when I confronted her with that instead of owning up her actions she decided ending it was the best thing and on top of before she left my apartment one night she was chatting another guy in the middle of the night in presence?! What a disrespect. When I asked she said is nothing and they only talk about anime stuffs.

The things she knows what she is doing but turns it around like I am the one with issues. I am glad this is over and she will see again. To me she is dead or I never met her and I don't know her
 
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