"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I have no personality

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Halcyonique said:
I'd encourage you to concentrate on things you love: hobbies, interests, places, shiz like that, and maybe try to get to the bottom of why you feel that approving glances, etc, from women mean so much to you, because I guarantee you if you stick to your personal passions, it will not only make you more attractive to women, but (more importantly) you'll feel happy enough on your own so that women don't play such a big role to you.
It seems that I have taken my hobbies, interests, places to the extreme especially over the last two years. I go golfing, bowling, play pool, watch sports and TV, listen to music. Work. But no female interaction.

It is all fear based, everything, not just women (though it seems women are the main thing missing now). And I'm hoping to figure where those fears in life come from (it's got to be something in the past) as well as learn to become a DJ.

As for the approving glances, I guess I look at it as a step (a very small step) at interacting with them, (cause it goes nowhere). But even when I get approving glances, it quickly diminishes in them when we make eye contact for a split second. It's like they can see I'm lame, haha. And isn't it a fact that women read body language better than men...needless to say, it's like they can tell I have no women skills so they're not interested from that point.

EVEN IF they approached me (very very unlikely), I have no conversation skills, which I referenced that another member pointed out to me. So I guess that's why I don't approach them anyway 1) because I can tell they know I'm lame (needy, etc.) 2) no conversation skills, pick up skills

So yeah, when you say "happy enough on your own so that women don't play such a big role to you," that's where I've been the last 2 years, happy enough on my own, women don't play a role. LOL
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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remotecontrol said:
No personality?
I think your using the wrong word..
Everyone has a personality..sure a lot of presonalities are boring ones.
maybe you think your boring and therefore you are what you think you are.

Never the less...what you really mean is you have no charisma.

thats what this web site is about..learning how to be good with women.

So how do you get to be charismatic with women..
well first you gotta believe its possible to achieve the goal.
Second you gotta practice and be willing to learn
.

And thats basically it.

If you keep thinking your boring and lifeless then thats what you will be.
Think more of yourself...dont you like things in life?..movies...books...art...food...whatever...
if you dont then get out there and start enjoying whats around...then when you talk to women you can discuss the world.
Thats part of being an interesting man and charismatic.
Great advice, especially believing its possible to achieve the goal
 
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