"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have no personality

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Halcyonique said:
I'd encourage you to concentrate on things you love: hobbies, interests, places, shiz like that, and maybe try to get to the bottom of why you feel that approving glances, etc, from women mean so much to you, because I guarantee you if you stick to your personal passions, it will not only make you more attractive to women, but (more importantly) you'll feel happy enough on your own so that women don't play such a big role to you.
It seems that I have taken my hobbies, interests, places to the extreme especially over the last two years. I go golfing, bowling, play pool, watch sports and TV, listen to music. Work. But no female interaction.

It is all fear based, everything, not just women (though it seems women are the main thing missing now). And I'm hoping to figure where those fears in life come from (it's got to be something in the past) as well as learn to become a DJ.

As for the approving glances, I guess I look at it as a step (a very small step) at interacting with them, (cause it goes nowhere). But even when I get approving glances, it quickly diminishes in them when we make eye contact for a split second. It's like they can see I'm lame, haha. And isn't it a fact that women read body language better than men...needless to say, it's like they can tell I have no women skills so they're not interested from that point.

EVEN IF they approached me (very very unlikely), I have no conversation skills, which I referenced that another member pointed out to me. So I guess that's why I don't approach them anyway 1) because I can tell they know I'm lame (needy, etc.) 2) no conversation skills, pick up skills

So yeah, when you say "happy enough on your own so that women don't play such a big role to you," that's where I've been the last 2 years, happy enough on my own, women don't play a role. LOL
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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remotecontrol said:
No personality?
I think your using the wrong word..
Everyone has a personality..sure a lot of presonalities are boring ones.
maybe you think your boring and therefore you are what you think you are.

Never the less...what you really mean is you have no charisma.

thats what this web site is about..learning how to be good with women.

So how do you get to be charismatic with women..
well first you gotta believe its possible to achieve the goal.
Second you gotta practice and be willing to learn
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And thats basically it.

If you keep thinking your boring and lifeless then thats what you will be.
Think more of yourself...dont you like things in life?..movies...books...art...food...whatever...
if you dont then get out there and start enjoying whats around...then when you talk to women you can discuss the world.
Thats part of being an interesting man and charismatic.
Great advice, especially believing its possible to achieve the goal
 
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