MikeYikes122
Master Don Juan
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I got a 9.5 on HotorNot once, and just like you, girls never approached me in college. It happened in high school, but not in college.Touchout said:Exact same problem dude, but unlike some of these guys girls never approach me (maybe because college-age girls generally don't approach guys).
Sad part is that I'm a 9.6 on Hotornot, but I'm still insecure about this. That is something that needs to get handled NOW. I like some of these guys suggestions here, and I especially like the self-confidence oozing from some of these posts.
Here's why. There are tons of other good looking dudes at the average American state university - especially if you go to a big school with tons of people. I've also noticed that, with age, women become a lot more insecure and a lot less ballsy. What I mean by this is, if they see a really good looking guy, they aren't going to approach him even if their lives depend on it. There's even a good chance that they're not going to toss IOIs at him because they're insecure and are too afraid of putting themselves out there for a really hot guy. It's like when you see a really hot girl. You don't want to stare and risk coming off too obvious with your attraction. Women and men are completely different in their ways of expressing interest in the opposite sex, but there are a few universalities. This dynamic is one of them. It's only natural for a human being to feel the need to act aloof and disinterested in the presence of a person they are really, really attracted to. Confident guys can get over this feeling and learn how to express interest with coming off too strongly, but women don't ever seem to be able to get over the hump. It's their nature to be submissive, so the majority of them won't even make the slightest move at a guy they are really, really attracted to.
I know this because I'm speaking from experience. I go out all the time and rarely do I ever get IOIs. When I do get them they are very subtle: girls checking me out from the corner of their eyes, sweeping glances from across the room, girls showing interest with by standing in close proximity, etc. Very rarely do I get a girl smiling at me and looking me up and down. The girls who do come on that strongly usually aren't hot. They are cute but not hot - probably because a cute girl isn't as insecure and willing to put herself out their a little bit more than a hot girl, if a hot guy has really caught her eye. The cute girl has to take that kind of a risk because a really good looking dude is going to overlook her.
Usually, I have to be very perceptive for the slightest of IOIs, or I just approach girls without getting any invitations. And I'm a guy who has had tons of success in cold approaching and had plenty of plates/hook-ups/lays over the years.
You're issue, Touchout, is that you think about the game from only a guy's point of view. The problem with this is that girls judge the opposite sex and feel attraction in completely different manners. A good looking girl could pretty much always have a boyfriend if she wanted one, as she has tons of AFCs pining after her and tons of guys hitting on her. A good looking dude, however, doesn't have this luxury, because women judge men on more than just looks. Being good looking will easily get your feet in the door with a girl, but act in an unconfindent or awkward manner and you will be nexted just as quickly as the average guy. A hot girl is always rejecting guys and qualifying them, while a hot guy seldom has to reject a girl. And even when a guy has to reject a girl, it's usually a girl who is low-quality and undesirable for whatever reason. The broad who actively chases guys is usually a little bit fvcked up in the head.
There's absolutely no reason that a guy who gets a 9.6 on HotorNot should have a girlfriend at all times. To say or think something like that makes no sense at all, because women need more than just looks from a guy.