"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have a gf, yet girl at the gym strives for my attention

gimmeyofonenumba

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Alright, me and my gf have been getting closer, been with her for 4 months now. However, recently we've been going to our local gym and there is a girl in there that gets a damn awful ammount of attention from dudes. She is gorgeous, but she is stuck up about herself, she is posing/checking herself out in the mirror all the time. I check her out too, but I've been trying to just ignore her for the sake of my relationship. Our gym is very big, and always crowded, yet this girl is striving to get my attention. She's always passing by focused on me, When she's leaving, right before she walks through the door she turns back and looks at me. every one of theese times im with my gf. I've walked by her a few times before and kept ec, and she fleeted her eyes downwards, which i know is a sign of submissivness.

My gf hates her, and I think its cause she knows that the girl is really trying to get my attention. You see, Im in a dillema, because if i was single i would've approached this girl long ago. Any dudes ever been in the same predicament?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
Alright, me and my gf have been getting closer, been with her for 4 months now. However, recently we've been going to our local gym and there is a girl in there that gets a damn awful ammount of attention from dudes. She is gorgeous, but she is stuck up about herself, she is posing/checking herself out in the mirror all the time. I check her out too, but I've been trying to just ignore her for the sake of my relationship. Our gym is very big, and always crowded, yet this girl is striving to get my attention. She's always passing by focused on me, When she's leaving, right before she walks through the door she turns back and looks at me. every one of theese times im with my gf. I've walked by her a few times before and kept ec, and she fleeted her eyes downwards, which i know is a sign of submissivness.

My gf hates her, and I think its cause she knows that the girl is really trying to get my attention. You see, Im in a dillema, because if i was single i would've approached this girl long ago. Any dudes ever been in the same predicament?
Dude seriously when I read this I thought I actually wrote it myself.

I went through the same situation and now that we broke up I kinda regret never getting her number. She really liked me...

Dude this really happened to me. We'd workout together and the girl that worked there was always talking to me at the front desk, pissed my girl off.
 

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ya, I feel the same way too. I guess you could say I have a slight crush on this girl at the gym, and she's far hotter than my gf. But my gf has some good qualities. Either way, I wouldnt go behind her back about this for very long if at all.
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
You see, Im in a dillema, because if i was single i would've approached this girl long ago.
Maybe it's the fact that you have a girlfriend that is making her attracted to you in the first place.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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