TheManlyMan
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What are some things YOU say to break past this BS?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Listen to this Girl guys, she's givin you gold.2_intense2 said:the "I have a bf" line usually means: she has a BF, or she isn't interested in you..
but if you want to try your luck, you could say:
" an hour with me, and I could change that"
" yea, well I don't see him around..so..."
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If she mentions her BF, she's not interested, PERIOD.
"Seeing someone" isn't as strong. It implies there is/are someone she's casually dating but isn't really INTO. In this case I continue the push.
Her: "Well, I'm kinda seeing someone..."
Me: "Yeah, well so am I. What's your number?"
BGMan
Bingo! While I dig a lot of these other comebacks, this is the best to use. It's funny that girls always assume they're being hit on, so when they say "I have a bf" you're like "....?? And he's a lucky guy. Do you want a medal? So anyway..." because you're just bein social and having a convo with her. Tell her not to flatter herself lol.Vypros said:How about:
Her: I have a boyfriend
You: Well, your boyfriend is a lucky man. Anyways, blah blah blah
You're a SOCIAL person. You talk to EVERYONE and a little thing like her having a boyfriend doesn't phase you in the least.
The key is not to get hung up on it. If you you can reply back with something IMMEDIATELY and be TOTALLY unphased by her remark and can STILL hold a conversation with her, you are in essence planting a SEED with her.
Forget about getting her number--she probably won't give it to you anyway. Just plant the seed, and walk away after conversing normally with her for a little while.