"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have a big f*cking head....and I love it!

dbot

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Okay, so my head isn't that big, but it's one of the few things about my appearance that's ever made me feel insecure. Part of becoming socially successful, with women and in general, was becoming completely comfortable with myself and appreciative of who I am.

It's not rejection that humans fear, but the damaging of our egos. We all secretly know the one blow that will absolutely destroy our self-esteem, and no matter how slim the chances are of ever receiving it, the mere thought of such a drastic event is what inevitably leads to our hesitation.

Time to get real.

I am not perfect, and neither are you. You are either short or fat or bald or skinny or stupid or any combination of the five. Either your nose is big, your teeth are fucked, your chin is long, your eyebrows are bushy, your forehead is wrinkly, your ears are tiny, or your voice is annoying. Your personality has its faults as well. You're obnoxious or arrogant or self-centered or bossy or judgemental or pessimistic or naive. You make up stories, you kill jokes, you can't take your own advice, and you think you have all the answers.

Become Fearless

What do you dislike most about yourself? What is the single most damaging thing a stranger can say to you? Figure it out, and say it to yourself. Say it LOUDLY. Embrace your flaws, because they are the only things that make you who you are, and you damn well better love yourself if you're ever going to be happy.

I'm broke...AND I LOVE IT!
I drive a shitty car...AND I LOVE IT!
I wear glasses...AND I LOVE IT!
I'm terribly impatient...AND I LOVE IT!
I have a big fucking head...AND I LOVE IT!

This is the secret to my success. There is absolutely nothing anyone can say to me that can possibly shake my confidence. I'm always on top of my game; always in the zone. I'm unstoppable. I'm me...AND I LOVE IT!


-dbot
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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AGBourne

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This is way too negative.

Saying to yourself what you hate about yourself will not help you get confidence or anything else. What you are saying is in the right place, the execution is not effective.

Your flaws are not who you are.

Your flaws are not flaws. What you percieve are flaws is what makes up your individual personality.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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dbot

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I'm not being negative in the least. I'm saying to embrace what makes you unique. Your flaws are who you are. If everyone was "perfect" then everyone would be the same. How boring is that? You are right though. Your flaws are only flaws as long as you perceive them in a negative sense.

That's the point of this post. Stop trying to hide what makes you different. Once you accept yourself you'll be light years ahead of everyone else, because you'll be free to do anything.
 

MisterMcGee

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If someone asks you "what are you doing tonight?" and youre doing nothing, its really cool to say "nothing much just chilling at my place to unwind doing things i enjoy"
ive heard people say "im such a geek, i really prefer playing music and fooling around with my hobbies rather than partying some nights" and it just reeks of self confidence. dont try to be "super-party-social-chickmagnet-perfect dude" is thats not what you are.
 

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i love it that i'm awkward.
i love it that i'm hard to read.
 

jcap

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nerds will always be nerds, what can I say

big head? lol?
focus on something more important, like a career , how to pay rent, how to support yourself indefintely without being a slave to someone and answering "yes sir" all day just to put food on the table.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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