"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I have a bad smile
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
originaldj
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Patrick124
Master Don Juan
but you know? i don't fvcking care. i don't need to change who I am for others approval. fvck em.
DJ_Trainee_10
Don Juan
It is a bit wierd, so I think.
Ask exactly what is 'wrong', I use that loosely, with your smile.
If its too little of a smile, smile a bigger smile.
If its too big of a smile, smile a smaller smile.
A smile should come natural. Thats pretty much all you can do.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
<-------- practice that...superman2k6
Don Juan
you make the most AFC threads man, about how your hair looks and crap like that
honestly, you're missing the whole point of the bible. look to yourself for answers to your small insecurities and trust your own answer, don't look to others for affirmation
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Well DON'T ****ING LIE!!! Don't give me some stupid bull**** about being your own worst enemy, and than don't follow your own thinking, it's disgusting how people do that kind of ****.
You feel bad for yourself, boo fricking hoo. Should I grab you by the hand and take you to the washroom and have you brush your teeth while I watch THREE times a day? Should I take you to your dentists and hold your hand while the scary man cleans your dirty mouth?
Sorry, don't ****ing complain, people like me will hear you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.