Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No, it has nothing to do with that. I live in a very small town, out in the middle of nowhere. The population here is 1100 people and it is a 3 hour drive to the nearest city. I have parents that are quite negative towards me, last year my mom told me "No one could ever love you because you are to fat." Women didn't even like me when I was thin so what chance do I have?Accension said:Would it have anything to do with the fact that you're a 25 year old that likes anime and spends most his time on the internet.
At best you are a smoker wining about cancer.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
In other words you want pitty from the internet yet your high post count tells me you've been here long enough to benefit from any life changing advice, only you don't take it?SharinganUser said:No, it has nothing to do with that. I live in a very small town, out in the middle of nowhere. The population here is 1100 people and it is a 3 hour drive to the nearest city. I have parents that are quite negative towards me, last year my mom told me "No one could ever love you because you are to fat." Women didn't even like me when I was thin so what chance do I have?
I am leaving Canada in the fall to take an English teaching job in Asia. Until then, my chances of having sex or dating are around roughly zero.
Your problem is your attitude. You need to fix that before you can even think about dating.SharinganUser said:I have a feeling that I am going to be one of those old guys that buys prostitutes. (Or do you rent them??) I'm 25 and never really had a gf. No prospects in the near future and even if their were I have lost all my inner game and I look like ****.
lol.. most men end up there eventually hahahah.. thats life just make sure you can afford it..SharinganUser said:I have a feeling that I am going to be one of those old guys that buys prostitutes. (Or do you rent them??) I'm 25 and never really had a gf. No prospects in the near future and even if their were I have lost all my inner game and I look like ****.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just, every time I see a guy AFCing out even in the worst times.SharinganUser said:Accension I've had my ups and downs. I've just fallen a lot this past year.
DonGorgon What else can I say? I've met a lot of older guys who actually date prostitutes.
You fall because you don´t follow the advices you get. Stop making excuses and crying like a b!tch!SharinganUser said:Accension I've had my ups and downs. I've just fallen a lot this past year.