Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

I have a bad feeling...

SharinganUser

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 1, 2006
Messages
1,776
Reaction score
50
I have a feeling that I am going to be one of those old guys that buys prostitutes. (Or do you rent them??) I'm 25 and never really had a gf. No prospects in the near future and even if their were I have lost all my inner game and I look like ****.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

SharinganUser

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 1, 2006
Messages
1,776
Reaction score
50
Accension said:
Would it have anything to do with the fact that you're a 25 year old that likes anime and spends most his time on the internet.

At best you are a smoker wining about cancer.
No, it has nothing to do with that. I live in a very small town, out in the middle of nowhere. The population here is 1100 people and it is a 3 hour drive to the nearest city. I have parents that are quite negative towards me, last year my mom told me "No one could ever love you because you are to fat." Women didn't even like me when I was thin so what chance do I have?

I am leaving Canada in the fall to take an English teaching job in Asia. Until then, my chances of having sex or dating are around roughly zero.
 

Desert Fox

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 16, 2008
Messages
786
Reaction score
22
dude you're just desperate. just chill out, live your life, accomplish your goals, and forget about women for now.

your mom is a b1tch for saying that, but asian parents are direct and brutal like that.

you either change or you will wither and die.
 

Warrior74

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2008
Messages
5,106
Reaction score
230
Do you have any friends? you guys should split a hotel room and take regular trips to the city. Go for the day, buy you some new fresh clothes and hit some clubs and come back home sunday afternoon.

No friends? Go solo. When girls ask why you are in town, tell em business. You have to be proactive and find a way. Whining online is not going to solve your problem. Action will solve it.

Fat guys get girls too man. Just make sure you are dressed as well as possible and have a great outgoing upbeat attitude, it goes a looong way. As a former fat guy, trust me on that.

As for your mom and your weak inner game. Look into meditation and affirmations and positive self talk, control your mind or others will control it for you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

everywomanshero

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2005
Messages
1,814
Reaction score
36
OP,

I don't know what you look like but looks wise if you are clean, have good dental practices, bother to cut your hair (heck maybe even style it), and put some clothes that look like you've put at least some thought into your appearance, many women will be interested in learning about your personality.
Have you bothered to do those things? If not, what are you waiting for, I am telling you it will make a difference because it makes a difference.

Second, right now no woman in her right mind would be attracted to your personality because you're too down on yourself. Get hobbies, get excited about anything you're genuinely interested in even if it's star trek **** it doesn't matter women (hell people) just want to see you get excited about something and enjoy life, it's ****ing attractive man!

Last, you seem to have very negative connations for hookers. I think it could be fun to drop some cash on a hottie porn queen or something, might be a good laugh to do something like that. I picked up some hookers the hard way (looks and personality) in Latin America. They were OK chicks man, we had fun and I don't regret having met them. I know a chick that got a hooker for 3 way with her bf too. It's all good.
 

horaholic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2008
Messages
2,254
Reaction score
79
Why do you live in this small town?
 

Accension

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2009
Messages
288
Reaction score
20
Location
Australia, ?
SharinganUser said:
No, it has nothing to do with that. I live in a very small town, out in the middle of nowhere. The population here is 1100 people and it is a 3 hour drive to the nearest city. I have parents that are quite negative towards me, last year my mom told me "No one could ever love you because you are to fat." Women didn't even like me when I was thin so what chance do I have?

I am leaving Canada in the fall to take an English teaching job in Asia. Until then, my chances of having sex or dating are around roughly zero.
In other words you want pitty from the internet yet your high post count tells me you've been here long enough to benefit from any life changing advice, only you don't take it?
 

cletus

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 14, 2009
Messages
30
Reaction score
0
SharinganUser said:
I have a feeling that I am going to be one of those old guys that buys prostitutes. (Or do you rent them??) I'm 25 and never really had a gf. No prospects in the near future and even if their were I have lost all my inner game and I look like ****.
Your problem is your attitude. You need to fix that before you can even think about dating.
 

DonGorgon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 28, 2007
Messages
4,679
Reaction score
102
Location
Studying the fact that all lies contain fragments
SharinganUser said:
I have a feeling that I am going to be one of those old guys that buys prostitutes. (Or do you rent them??) I'm 25 and never really had a gf. No prospects in the near future and even if their were I have lost all my inner game and I look like ****.
lol.. most men end up there eventually hahahah.. thats life just make sure you can afford it..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

SharinganUser

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 1, 2006
Messages
1,776
Reaction score
50
Accension I've had my ups and downs. I've just fallen a lot this past year.

DonGorgon What else can I say? I've met a lot of older guys who actually date prostitutes.
 

Accension

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2009
Messages
288
Reaction score
20
Location
Australia, ?
SharinganUser said:
Accension I've had my ups and downs. I've just fallen a lot this past year.

DonGorgon What else can I say? I've met a lot of older guys who actually date prostitutes.
Just, every time I see a guy AFCing out even in the worst times.
I feel a little sick.

So I sat down wondering why and thought how it reminded me of the old me, man I hate that guy.
Yeah, if you want to talk about anything; just PM me.

When someone asks for help here I never water it down, makes me sound like an jerk.
 

Commandante

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2009
Messages
234
Reaction score
5
SharinganUser said:
Accension I've had my ups and downs. I've just fallen a lot this past year.
You fall because you don´t follow the advices you get. Stop making excuses and crying like a b!tch!

The most people are looking for the magic spell which changes their lives. But you aren´t Harry Potter and we are not in Hogwart. The only thing you gonna find here is hard work.

Actually teaching English in Asia isn´t a bad idea. Use your time left before leaving to Asia to get into shape!
 
Top