"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I guess life is ironic sometimes.....

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mystic03

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Since joining SoSuave I've been thinking of something: the whole women subject is really ironic. When you want a woman because you need one you'll never get it (well, no the one you're looking for) and when you improve yourself (like reading the posts, reading the DJ Bible and getting help from other djs) and finally realize that you don't need them is when you actually get one.
Maybe it's because you really were looking to find yourself not her!!
So maybe that's the big problem that guys (me included) are going trough, we are trying to find someone like ourselves but in the end we come empty handed because we, either, don't find that woman because it doesn't exist or becasue we are really looking for ourselves out there....

Does this make any sense to any of you???
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Caveman

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Ever wonder why no girl ever even looks at you when you're single while all woman seem to be looking at you when you're in love or dating someone?

You are radiating happiness. That is where the real attraction appears.

What happened is: You stopped being desperate and started to get your own life on track and improving to make yourself happy.

Girls don't want someone who needs them. They want someone they can need. They want a guy that has his life on track so he can look after her instead of whining about his own failure of a life.

Either way, since you wrote this post, I think you are making things work for yourself so: thumbs up to you.
 
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Slickster

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Ahhh yes Daniel-san. You learn very quickly. :)

A man desperate for a woman is an unattractive man.
 
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