Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Overthink things much? Get a life, bro.ducaro said:whats really does not settle with me is the fact that women on sosuave are rejoicing/congratulating and feeling happy for some GUY who got laid for the first time. There is something just wrong about this. I mean this is just the not the way of things. congratulating is a man's job...women don't get involved in all of this. Is sosuave resposnible for turning women in to 'man mentality?? I'm worried.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
no this does not require overthinking at all. Just simply thinking is enough.Master Bates said:Overthink things much? Get a life, bro.
Correction: You didn't get "laid" - you "layed" her!! Unless you are a female!T-Mack said:First time for me.. just thought I'd let everyone know![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've got 56 seconds on me, man.MoneyManHolmes said:I remember my first time. The best minute of my life!!!
Please give us details.
would that be such a bad thing?Is sosuave resposnible for turning women in to 'man mentality??
Shut the f*ck up hater. He posted it because he felt like posting it. If you stopped hating you might actually eventually get laid too. And good job man T-Mack. But dude, could we get some details? Like how long did you know the girl and how did it happen? I'm just curious.John-467 said::crackup:
(rolling on the god damn floor)
So motafvcka what do you want a cookie?
Last Man Standing said:Correction: You didn't get "laid" - you "layed" her!! Unless you are a female!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.