"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I got De-Alpha'ed

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Dont know how else to put this, but lately with stress and family matters piling up on top of me, I've been having trouble focusing on myself. I guess this other guy in my group saw whats happening and took advantage of this opportuniy to become the alpha male of the group. :down: Now i gotta pull myself together and get back my position again. Any inputs or advice?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You are only in one group?
 

Oni

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MOre like several groups joined together to form this one big group that i hang out in.
 

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If you are going to be head of the group again, dispose ofthis guy with respect. I don't mean respect in any way other than don't be a jerk and belittle him or just blatantly insult him or anything. Show the group you're the guy to follow by showing the best leadership skills, and DJ stuff and all that.
 

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Wait until nobody is looking, and then say "hey, otherguy, let's go out back and smoke some dope." or whatever excuse you want. Then just go outside and hide behind a corner. When he comes walking around, hit him in the head and push him down. Sit on his chest and make him eat dirt! Laugh at him and call him a little baby. Don't leave any marks.

Then you go back inside, and act like nothing happened. If he says something just be like "hey man I was just playing around!" "I dont see the big deal" **** like that. act like he's crazy. This will make you feel MUCH better.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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wavejams007

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Originally posted by superchristx
Wait until nobody is looking, and then say "hey, otherguy, let's go out back and smoke some dope." or whatever excuse you want. Then just go outside and hide behind a corner. When he comes walking around, hit him in the head and push him down. Sit on his chest and make him eat dirt! Laugh at him and call him a little baby. Don't leave any marks.

Then you go back inside, and act like nothing happened. If he says something deny it, and put your arm around him like you're still pals.
and if the other guy is anything like me, he'd hit you back and hurt you badly right then and there for being a two-faced b*stard.

Don't mean to flame you, but this is not good advice.

Just in case you were joking, sorry for taking it seriously, but I don't thin you were.
 

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riiiiiiiiight...

Back on subject...
I can relate. Any guidance I can give?
Deal with your life issues.
Re-Balance yourself
Get yourself into the "Alpha" state of mind,
and take over.



Once I joined a camp, and there were 2 very popular kids. Me & some other kid. I knew that we could either be united, or divided.

I seriously went up to him and said, "Hey listen man, if we own this camp together, we can have a lot of fun. Or we can do our own seperate thing and it won't be as cool. You down with being partners?"

He just told me, "F*ck you cracka." (He's black, I'm white, He's a racist.)

So I laughed it off, and did my alpha thing and had a beautiful time.
He on the other hand... did not.
His popularity faded when he was negative.
The DJ/Alpha will always be FUN to be around. Remember this, and Succeed.
 

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Originally posted by superchristx
Exactly! what better way than to make him eat a pile of dirt.
Wow. That's just stupid.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Oni

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Thanks guys these advices are great. We are currently on a two weeks christmas break. Im gonna take advantage of this time and straighted myself up again.
 
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