"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I got De-Alpha'ed

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Dont know how else to put this, but lately with stress and family matters piling up on top of me, I've been having trouble focusing on myself. I guess this other guy in my group saw whats happening and took advantage of this opportuniy to become the alpha male of the group. :down: Now i gotta pull myself together and get back my position again. Any inputs or advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wavejams007

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You are only in one group?
 

Oni

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MOre like several groups joined together to form this one big group that i hang out in.
 

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If you are going to be head of the group again, dispose ofthis guy with respect. I don't mean respect in any way other than don't be a jerk and belittle him or just blatantly insult him or anything. Show the group you're the guy to follow by showing the best leadership skills, and DJ stuff and all that.
 

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Wait until nobody is looking, and then say "hey, otherguy, let's go out back and smoke some dope." or whatever excuse you want. Then just go outside and hide behind a corner. When he comes walking around, hit him in the head and push him down. Sit on his chest and make him eat dirt! Laugh at him and call him a little baby. Don't leave any marks.

Then you go back inside, and act like nothing happened. If he says something just be like "hey man I was just playing around!" "I dont see the big deal" **** like that. act like he's crazy. This will make you feel MUCH better.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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wavejams007

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Originally posted by superchristx
Wait until nobody is looking, and then say "hey, otherguy, let's go out back and smoke some dope." or whatever excuse you want. Then just go outside and hide behind a corner. When he comes walking around, hit him in the head and push him down. Sit on his chest and make him eat dirt! Laugh at him and call him a little baby. Don't leave any marks.

Then you go back inside, and act like nothing happened. If he says something deny it, and put your arm around him like you're still pals.
and if the other guy is anything like me, he'd hit you back and hurt you badly right then and there for being a two-faced b*stard.

Don't mean to flame you, but this is not good advice.

Just in case you were joking, sorry for taking it seriously, but I don't thin you were.
 

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riiiiiiiiight...

Back on subject...
I can relate. Any guidance I can give?
Deal with your life issues.
Re-Balance yourself
Get yourself into the "Alpha" state of mind,
and take over.



Once I joined a camp, and there were 2 very popular kids. Me & some other kid. I knew that we could either be united, or divided.

I seriously went up to him and said, "Hey listen man, if we own this camp together, we can have a lot of fun. Or we can do our own seperate thing and it won't be as cool. You down with being partners?"

He just told me, "F*ck you cracka." (He's black, I'm white, He's a racist.)

So I laughed it off, and did my alpha thing and had a beautiful time.
He on the other hand... did not.
His popularity faded when he was negative.
The DJ/Alpha will always be FUN to be around. Remember this, and Succeed.
 

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Originally posted by superchristx
Exactly! what better way than to make him eat a pile of dirt.
Wow. That's just stupid.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Oni

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Thanks guys these advices are great. We are currently on a two weeks christmas break. Im gonna take advantage of this time and straighted myself up again.
 
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