Dhoulmagus
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Bars and clubs are bad and tinder lol. Is Okcupid and POF really where it is at? Everybody only hangs out with their high school/county cliques in college.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I give up, where the **** do yall meet girls
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Maximus Rex
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Where the Girls Are
Chicks are literally everywhere. The grocery store, farmers markets, pet stores, dressed up as cosplay girls at comic book conventions, Barnes and Noble, the fem hy section of Walgreens, and of course just walking up and down the street.
However, I think you want to know where you can find women en masse and those places are bars, restaurants, lounges, your local mall and of course the club. What you're going to have to do is do a series of reconnaissance missions find out where the popping spots are in your area or you're going to have to post in So Suave's or another site's wingman forum.
Chicks are literally everywhere. The grocery store, farmers markets, pet stores, dressed up as cosplay girls at comic book conventions, Barnes and Noble, the fem hy section of Walgreens, and of course just walking up and down the street.
However, I think you want to know where you can find women en masse and those places are bars, restaurants, lounges, your local mall and of course the club. What you're going to have to do is do a series of reconnaissance missions find out where the popping spots are in your area or you're going to have to post in So Suave's or another site's wingman forum.
Mike32ct
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Clique is the enemy of your dik lol.Dhoulmagus said:
Sorry couldn't resist lol.
In all seriousness, Rex's response covers it.
The only caveat I might add is that the best place might not necessarily be the busiest or have the best ratio. Sometimes you can go to a busy place that is 80 percent women and do very poorly because they are too worried about what their friends in their large group might think of you. And busy means more distractions and more dudes for her to choose from. Sometimes the best bar or club or restaurant or lounge or whatever to hook up from is one that is very slow and the women are bored.
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anywhereDhoulmagus said:
so r u saying that everywhere u go, its 100% guys? what the fuk
oh and in college, everyone has cliques? like maury says, that's a lie.
Stating the obvious but to meet girls you have to approach.
Go where there is a high volume, this improves the chances and also helps you build momentum in your mental state from one branch to another. Its soooooo much fun.
Go where there is a high volume, this improves the chances and also helps you build momentum in your mental state from one branch to another. Its soooooo much fun.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Sometimes during the year they are just not out...like during finals week. But that's when I kinda take my focus and energy on doing more workouts or just improving my wardrobe or what not
but when I find that I'm wondering where all the pretty girls are at, I hit up a strip club for an hour...that gets my visual fix and then I just start approaching anyone around with a smile on my face.
basically I try not to get down in the dumps because "there are no girls around".
its also a good reminder to not hesitate or be shy because you never know when there's a dry spell around the corner.
but when I find that I'm wondering where all the pretty girls are at, I hit up a strip club for an hour...that gets my visual fix and then I just start approaching anyone around with a smile on my face.
basically I try not to get down in the dumps because "there are no girls around".
its also a good reminder to not hesitate or be shy because you never know when there's a dry spell around the corner.
Dhoulmagus
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There are plenty of girls, but they are all in groups and look unapproachable. If they date somebody, 9 times out of ten the dude is from her high school or something
Bingo-Player
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two key words here SOCIAL CIRCLES
bars clubs shops restaurants yea they're all fine but your always gonna have an uphill battle on your hands cos your that unknown random dude that could be a serial rapist behind closed doors
make friends first then let them "introduce" you to other women
you've already been validated & screened through the mutuals so your on an even playing field
bars clubs shops restaurants yea they're all fine but your always gonna have an uphill battle on your hands cos your that unknown random dude that could be a serial rapist behind closed doors
make friends first then let them "introduce" you to other women
you've already been validated & screened through the mutuals so your on an even playing field
Yep. The vast majority of the population dates people from their social circle. Build a good social circle and you basically have a machine constantly spitting out date-able and fvck-able women.Bingo-Player said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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That's the most sound advice I heard in months.
I got a bone to pick with you gentlemen lol
I got a bone to pick with you gentlemen lol