"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I gained more experience last night....

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By dumping my g/f of six months. There wasn't any more connection between us. It felt to me like I was a burden to hang out with and that she had no respect for me. I dumped her. Which led to her telling me some interesting points.

Keep in mind that this girl has never been dumped, guys worship the ground she walks on, she's about a HB9.

She told me that she was confused by me, and that I didn't give her enough attention. She told me that she tried numerous tests to get a reaction out of me, and that she was confused because I didn't react to any of them. She said that she stopped trying b/c I wasn't "chasing" her enough, even though we had been going out for 6 months.

After I broke up with her, she hugged me, and then as I get out of the car to say goodbye she kisses me once and goes in for more. At that point I just said "goodbye" and walked back to my car, she tried tried to grab my hand but i just kept going.

I get home, and instantly she IMS me, telling me she misses me already, and how she hopes we can get back together in the future.

Tell me if I'm wrong master DJ's, but did I do the right thing? My gut told me to get the hell out of the relationship last night on the ride home and that's what I did, I feel like I'm slowly progressing, considering I found this site about a year ago, and I still can't believe how far I've come.

Thanks to all who have read, please contribute any of your thoughts.

Cy
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You did great, girls that play games all the time and have little substance aren't long term material anyways. You put her in a position where now she will chase you for the obvious reason that you don't want her anymore. Funny how things work that way. Expect to be hearing from her on and off for quite a while, but be careful because she could be the type that just wants you to chase her one last time and then she'll drop you like a rock the moment the power shifts in her favor.
 
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Dark Nimbus

Thanks for the reply, I concur that this girl could be trying to get back together with me just to drop me again.

I will be cautious.

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She's full of games and even admitted it. Girls who specifically and consciously do this to "get a reaction out of you" are extremely immature.....and she did it 6 times? That's like every month she played some stupid game to try to get a rise out of you. You're better off without her and look for a girl who is more mature.
 
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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
She's full of games and even admitted it. Girls who specifically and consciously do this to "get a reaction out of you" are extremely immature.....and she did it 6 times? That's like every month she played some stupid game to try to get a rise out of you. You're better off without her and look for a girl who is more mature.
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Thanks for the reply. I think I'm leaning that way.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you're gut tells you it's the right thing, then you were right.

Chances are, you'll never be dating a girl whose a complete and total b1tch and dumping her is the easiest choice you'll ever make. If you're dating a girl, there's probably *something* about her you like, and that causes doubt when you have to dump them.
 
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