"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I gained more experience last night....

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By dumping my g/f of six months. There wasn't any more connection between us. It felt to me like I was a burden to hang out with and that she had no respect for me. I dumped her. Which led to her telling me some interesting points.

Keep in mind that this girl has never been dumped, guys worship the ground she walks on, she's about a HB9.

She told me that she was confused by me, and that I didn't give her enough attention. She told me that she tried numerous tests to get a reaction out of me, and that she was confused because I didn't react to any of them. She said that she stopped trying b/c I wasn't "chasing" her enough, even though we had been going out for 6 months.

After I broke up with her, she hugged me, and then as I get out of the car to say goodbye she kisses me once and goes in for more. At that point I just said "goodbye" and walked back to my car, she tried tried to grab my hand but i just kept going.

I get home, and instantly she IMS me, telling me she misses me already, and how she hopes we can get back together in the future.

Tell me if I'm wrong master DJ's, but did I do the right thing? My gut told me to get the hell out of the relationship last night on the ride home and that's what I did, I feel like I'm slowly progressing, considering I found this site about a year ago, and I still can't believe how far I've come.

Thanks to all who have read, please contribute any of your thoughts.

Cy
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You did great, girls that play games all the time and have little substance aren't long term material anyways. You put her in a position where now she will chase you for the obvious reason that you don't want her anymore. Funny how things work that way. Expect to be hearing from her on and off for quite a while, but be careful because she could be the type that just wants you to chase her one last time and then she'll drop you like a rock the moment the power shifts in her favor.
 
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Dark Nimbus

Thanks for the reply, I concur that this girl could be trying to get back together with me just to drop me again.

I will be cautious.

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She's full of games and even admitted it. Girls who specifically and consciously do this to "get a reaction out of you" are extremely immature.....and she did it 6 times? That's like every month she played some stupid game to try to get a rise out of you. You're better off without her and look for a girl who is more mature.
 
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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
She's full of games and even admitted it. Girls who specifically and consciously do this to "get a reaction out of you" are extremely immature.....and she did it 6 times? That's like every month she played some stupid game to try to get a rise out of you. You're better off without her and look for a girl who is more mature.
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Thanks for the reply. I think I'm leaning that way.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you're gut tells you it's the right thing, then you were right.

Chances are, you'll never be dating a girl whose a complete and total b1tch and dumping her is the easiest choice you'll ever make. If you're dating a girl, there's probably *something* about her you like, and that causes doubt when you have to dump them.
 
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