"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I gained more experience last night....

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By dumping my g/f of six months. There wasn't any more connection between us. It felt to me like I was a burden to hang out with and that she had no respect for me. I dumped her. Which led to her telling me some interesting points.

Keep in mind that this girl has never been dumped, guys worship the ground she walks on, she's about a HB9.

She told me that she was confused by me, and that I didn't give her enough attention. She told me that she tried numerous tests to get a reaction out of me, and that she was confused because I didn't react to any of them. She said that she stopped trying b/c I wasn't "chasing" her enough, even though we had been going out for 6 months.

After I broke up with her, she hugged me, and then as I get out of the car to say goodbye she kisses me once and goes in for more. At that point I just said "goodbye" and walked back to my car, she tried tried to grab my hand but i just kept going.

I get home, and instantly she IMS me, telling me she misses me already, and how she hopes we can get back together in the future.

Tell me if I'm wrong master DJ's, but did I do the right thing? My gut told me to get the hell out of the relationship last night on the ride home and that's what I did, I feel like I'm slowly progressing, considering I found this site about a year ago, and I still can't believe how far I've come.

Thanks to all who have read, please contribute any of your thoughts.

Cy
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You did great, girls that play games all the time and have little substance aren't long term material anyways. You put her in a position where now she will chase you for the obvious reason that you don't want her anymore. Funny how things work that way. Expect to be hearing from her on and off for quite a while, but be careful because she could be the type that just wants you to chase her one last time and then she'll drop you like a rock the moment the power shifts in her favor.
 
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Dark Nimbus

Thanks for the reply, I concur that this girl could be trying to get back together with me just to drop me again.

I will be cautious.

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She's full of games and even admitted it. Girls who specifically and consciously do this to "get a reaction out of you" are extremely immature.....and she did it 6 times? That's like every month she played some stupid game to try to get a rise out of you. You're better off without her and look for a girl who is more mature.
 
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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
She's full of games and even admitted it. Girls who specifically and consciously do this to "get a reaction out of you" are extremely immature.....and she did it 6 times? That's like every month she played some stupid game to try to get a rise out of you. You're better off without her and look for a girl who is more mature.
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Thanks for the reply. I think I'm leaning that way.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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If you're gut tells you it's the right thing, then you were right.

Chances are, you'll never be dating a girl whose a complete and total b1tch and dumping her is the easiest choice you'll ever make. If you're dating a girl, there's probably *something* about her you like, and that causes doubt when you have to dump them.
 
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