darksprezzatura
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So after a breakup this week, I shared some very personal details about my ex to 2-3 people in my family/friends. I shared it to them as those details could be a risk for me as my ex had some traumatic/abusive events with her ex in the past; and she’d sort of tried to replicate them with me but I never agreed.
I was just hurting, and didn’t think before sharing it because I never thought they would ever be in touch with her or anything. I obviously have strong attachment for her and feel really bad about sharing all of this.
I was kind and polite and ended things on a good note with her.
Now she reached out to me saying it’s too tough for her to stay apart. Now even if I want to reconcile, I can’t take her back because I betrayed her secrets to a few people. And even if I do take her back, how do I have her around them anymore, without feeling like they would be judging them/altering their actions around her or judging me.
Part of me already knows it’s better to move on and learn from this mistake. My attachment to her is making things difficult. I never share secrets about anyone to anyone but tend to blurt stuff about previous exes to some very close people. Now this makes me rethink that I should never share any one’s secrets who are either in my life or not.
I was just hurting, and didn’t think before sharing it because I never thought they would ever be in touch with her or anything. I obviously have strong attachment for her and feel really bad about sharing all of this.
I was kind and polite and ended things on a good note with her.
Now she reached out to me saying it’s too tough for her to stay apart. Now even if I want to reconcile, I can’t take her back because I betrayed her secrets to a few people. And even if I do take her back, how do I have her around them anymore, without feeling like they would be judging them/altering their actions around her or judging me.
Part of me already knows it’s better to move on and learn from this mistake. My attachment to her is making things difficult. I never share secrets about anyone to anyone but tend to blurt stuff about previous exes to some very close people. Now this makes me rethink that I should never share any one’s secrets who are either in my life or not.
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