Its my body. As simple as that, my looks are fine, that doesnt matter IMO. But my body is keeping me from talking to the women I want to talk to. Is there any way to keep the way I look in the back of my mind?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I found out why im scared of approaching.
- Thread starter HandyAndy
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
WC2
Master Don Juan
I can't say I was ever embarrassed of the way I look, I've always been in very good shape- BUT I do have nights where I feel a little less confident.. maybe it's something I'm wearing or the fact that I forgot to put on my favorite cologne.. who knows.
Anyways, just keep in the back of your mind that a good looking guy with no sociability can only get so far with a quality woman.
You MUST have confidence in yourself. Without confidence, your inner game is going to be lacking big time. I'm sure you can think of about 10 - 15 things that make you better than other men out there. Think of these things when you're feeling down on yourself.
Besides that, get in the gym! I've seen guys get themselves in shape from being very out of shape.. boy do I wish I had the confidence they are riding on right now.
Anyways, just keep in the back of your mind that a good looking guy with no sociability can only get so far with a quality woman.
You MUST have confidence in yourself. Without confidence, your inner game is going to be lacking big time. I'm sure you can think of about 10 - 15 things that make you better than other men out there. Think of these things when you're feeling down on yourself.
Besides that, get in the gym! I've seen guys get themselves in shape from being very out of shape.. boy do I wish I had the confidence they are riding on right now.
What do you mean your body? Go to the gym. There is no magic pill that's going to give you a six pack.HandyAndy said:Its my body. As simple as that, my looks are fine, that doesnt matter IMO. But my body is keeping me from talking to the women I want to talk to. Is there any way to keep the way I look in the back of my mind?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
MooseGod
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What's wrong with your body? Are you too fat? Too skinny? As long as you don't look like a contestant on The Biggest Loser or a holocaust victim, you've got nothing to worry about.
I used to think I was too lanky, until I watched some spaghetti westerns and realized, "Hey, Clint Eastwood's tall and skinny, and he's still a badass." So now I don't think of myself as skinny, I'm wiry. Rangy. Whatever. And still I can hit the gym to add more muscle if I feel like it.
I used to be a fat kid in high school until I went on the Atkins diet one summer and grew about 4 inches. I was self conscious then too. Then I got out of HS and found out pretty much all the girls I "liked" had crushes on me too, even when I was chunky. Why? Because of my attitude. My personality. What was missing then? The balls to make a move.
The point is, it doesn't matter what you look like. Unless you're just butt-ugly. Even then, it's all about the attitude. I used to work with a guy with a hare-lip (cleft palate if you wanna be PC) and he still pulled ass.
What's wrong with your body? Are you too fat? Too skinny? As long as you don't look like a contestant on The Biggest Loser or a holocaust victim, you've got nothing to worry about.
I used to think I was too lanky, until I watched some spaghetti westerns and realized, "Hey, Clint Eastwood's tall and skinny, and he's still a badass." So now I don't think of myself as skinny, I'm wiry. Rangy. Whatever. And still I can hit the gym to add more muscle if I feel like it.
I used to be a fat kid in high school until I went on the Atkins diet one summer and grew about 4 inches. I was self conscious then too. Then I got out of HS and found out pretty much all the girls I "liked" had crushes on me too, even when I was chunky. Why? Because of my attitude. My personality. What was missing then? The balls to make a move.
The point is, it doesn't matter what you look like. Unless you're just butt-ugly. Even then, it's all about the attitude. I used to work with a guy with a hare-lip (cleft palate if you wanna be PC) and he still pulled ass.
Litmus test for self-confidence about your body: stand in front of a long mirror naked, point at the guy staring back at you, and say, "This guy kicks major ass."
Can you pass the test?
I'm guessing no. Most guys can't. What do they do? And what should you do? Start eating healthy and workout. Visit the Health & Fitness forum. Develop a passion for eating healthy and staying fit. Not only will it boost your self-confidence, it will become part of your identity.
If you do decided to start eating healthy and staying fit, take this one small advice from me. Set goals. Realistic goals. Small goals. Nothing is more self-assuring and fulfilling than setting goals and achieving them every week in the gym. It's mind-blowing, my friend.
Can you pass the test?
I'm guessing no. Most guys can't. What do they do? And what should you do? Start eating healthy and workout. Visit the Health & Fitness forum. Develop a passion for eating healthy and staying fit. Not only will it boost your self-confidence, it will become part of your identity.
If you do decided to start eating healthy and staying fit, take this one small advice from me. Set goals. Realistic goals. Small goals. Nothing is more self-assuring and fulfilling than setting goals and achieving them every week in the gym. It's mind-blowing, my friend.
I started going everyday from monday, im following a diet and im limiting my junk food. I cant even remember when I stopped drinking soda. Im just gonna keep working hard towards my goal. I dont like the person looking back at me in the mirror. My AA would be drastically reduced if I know im in shape and not a slob
ready123
Master Don Juan
at least you've figured out what your cognitive block is
you're thinking that because of your body, there's no way the girl is gonna be attracted to you. like Moosegod said that's only true if you have absolutely nothing going for you. you'll understand that later in life
either way, keep with the workout / diet plan. not only will you indirectly improve your social life, it will also de-anchor all the AFC thoughts that are coupled with a poor self-image
you're thinking that because of your body, there's no way the girl is gonna be attracted to you. like Moosegod said that's only true if you have absolutely nothing going for you. you'll understand that later in life
either way, keep with the workout / diet plan. not only will you indirectly improve your social life, it will also de-anchor all the AFC thoughts that are coupled with a poor self-image
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.