Its my body. As simple as that, my looks are fine, that doesnt matter IMO. But my body is keeping me from talking to the women I want to talk to. Is there any way to keep the way I look in the back of my mind?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I found out why im scared of approaching.
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
WC2
Master Don Juan
I can't say I was ever embarrassed of the way I look, I've always been in very good shape- BUT I do have nights where I feel a little less confident.. maybe it's something I'm wearing or the fact that I forgot to put on my favorite cologne.. who knows.
Anyways, just keep in the back of your mind that a good looking guy with no sociability can only get so far with a quality woman.
You MUST have confidence in yourself. Without confidence, your inner game is going to be lacking big time. I'm sure you can think of about 10 - 15 things that make you better than other men out there. Think of these things when you're feeling down on yourself.
Besides that, get in the gym! I've seen guys get themselves in shape from being very out of shape.. boy do I wish I had the confidence they are riding on right now.
Anyways, just keep in the back of your mind that a good looking guy with no sociability can only get so far with a quality woman.
You MUST have confidence in yourself. Without confidence, your inner game is going to be lacking big time. I'm sure you can think of about 10 - 15 things that make you better than other men out there. Think of these things when you're feeling down on yourself.
Besides that, get in the gym! I've seen guys get themselves in shape from being very out of shape.. boy do I wish I had the confidence they are riding on right now.
What do you mean your body? Go to the gym. There is no magic pill that's going to give you a six pack.HandyAndy said:Its my body. As simple as that, my looks are fine, that doesnt matter IMO. But my body is keeping me from talking to the women I want to talk to. Is there any way to keep the way I look in the back of my mind?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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What's wrong with your body? Are you too fat? Too skinny? As long as you don't look like a contestant on The Biggest Loser or a holocaust victim, you've got nothing to worry about.
I used to think I was too lanky, until I watched some spaghetti westerns and realized, "Hey, Clint Eastwood's tall and skinny, and he's still a badass." So now I don't think of myself as skinny, I'm wiry. Rangy. Whatever. And still I can hit the gym to add more muscle if I feel like it.
I used to be a fat kid in high school until I went on the Atkins diet one summer and grew about 4 inches. I was self conscious then too. Then I got out of HS and found out pretty much all the girls I "liked" had crushes on me too, even when I was chunky. Why? Because of my attitude. My personality. What was missing then? The balls to make a move.
The point is, it doesn't matter what you look like. Unless you're just butt-ugly. Even then, it's all about the attitude. I used to work with a guy with a hare-lip (cleft palate if you wanna be PC) and he still pulled ass.
What's wrong with your body? Are you too fat? Too skinny? As long as you don't look like a contestant on The Biggest Loser or a holocaust victim, you've got nothing to worry about.
I used to think I was too lanky, until I watched some spaghetti westerns and realized, "Hey, Clint Eastwood's tall and skinny, and he's still a badass." So now I don't think of myself as skinny, I'm wiry. Rangy. Whatever. And still I can hit the gym to add more muscle if I feel like it.
I used to be a fat kid in high school until I went on the Atkins diet one summer and grew about 4 inches. I was self conscious then too. Then I got out of HS and found out pretty much all the girls I "liked" had crushes on me too, even when I was chunky. Why? Because of my attitude. My personality. What was missing then? The balls to make a move.
The point is, it doesn't matter what you look like. Unless you're just butt-ugly. Even then, it's all about the attitude. I used to work with a guy with a hare-lip (cleft palate if you wanna be PC) and he still pulled ass.
Litmus test for self-confidence about your body: stand in front of a long mirror naked, point at the guy staring back at you, and say, "This guy kicks major ass."
Can you pass the test?
I'm guessing no. Most guys can't. What do they do? And what should you do? Start eating healthy and workout. Visit the Health & Fitness forum. Develop a passion for eating healthy and staying fit. Not only will it boost your self-confidence, it will become part of your identity.
If you do decided to start eating healthy and staying fit, take this one small advice from me. Set goals. Realistic goals. Small goals. Nothing is more self-assuring and fulfilling than setting goals and achieving them every week in the gym. It's mind-blowing, my friend.
Can you pass the test?
I'm guessing no. Most guys can't. What do they do? And what should you do? Start eating healthy and workout. Visit the Health & Fitness forum. Develop a passion for eating healthy and staying fit. Not only will it boost your self-confidence, it will become part of your identity.
If you do decided to start eating healthy and staying fit, take this one small advice from me. Set goals. Realistic goals. Small goals. Nothing is more self-assuring and fulfilling than setting goals and achieving them every week in the gym. It's mind-blowing, my friend.
I started going everyday from monday, im following a diet and im limiting my junk food. I cant even remember when I stopped drinking soda. Im just gonna keep working hard towards my goal. I dont like the person looking back at me in the mirror. My AA would be drastically reduced if I know im in shape and not a slob
ready123
Master Don Juan
at least you've figured out what your cognitive block is
you're thinking that because of your body, there's no way the girl is gonna be attracted to you. like Moosegod said that's only true if you have absolutely nothing going for you. you'll understand that later in life
either way, keep with the workout / diet plan. not only will you indirectly improve your social life, it will also de-anchor all the AFC thoughts that are coupled with a poor self-image
you're thinking that because of your body, there's no way the girl is gonna be attracted to you. like Moosegod said that's only true if you have absolutely nothing going for you. you'll understand that later in life
either way, keep with the workout / diet plan. not only will you indirectly improve your social life, it will also de-anchor all the AFC thoughts that are coupled with a poor self-image
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.