You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think that's the best definition of introversion vs extroversion. That makes me an introvert, who has a capacity to be extroverted.
The reality though is that most peoples conversations truly are meaningless, talking about sports for instance serves no purpose whatsoever.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
An ambivert. I'm an ambivert as well. I make no effort to get together with "the group" but when I do everybody says I'm super social.
WHY introverts were created?
That's the real advantage extroverts have when it comes to being social. Many introverts have great social skills, but they can't match that energy that extroverts get when socializing, it's like they are literally feeding on the interaction. Meanwhile, an introvert will slowly become drained in an extended interaction.
I bet most great scientific advances were made by introverts, for the reasons listed above.
I don't exactly know why people become introverts. However, I have to say that I firmly believe that genetics only influence your behavior to a certain extent; I believe it's about 20 percent. Could be more though.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
true but they were beaten by chad
true my friends wonder how can I enjoy coding its so boring to them but creating things this way actually gives me dopamine
When I’m trying to work on a solitary project (either for work or myself), extroverted family members and friends are usually blowing up my phone lol.
I'm an introvert (as everybody here knows by now). My dad is an extrovert. I explained it to him this way...
exactly
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Correct, introversion and extroversion isn't binary, neither is any other personality traits. It's a spectrum and being somewhere in the middle is more common than the extremes.
It's neither of those. If I remember correctly you like it to wear colorful and shiny clothes to stand out. That means it's a part of your personality. You ascribe power to your clothes. It's completely normal. You set great store on dressing well.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.