Trainwreck
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tinder has been bad and haven't met jack ****, wtf else do I do. Meanwhile I see fat ass White men with Richard Spencer haircuts with girls.....really?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I feel like there's no hope
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MrJack
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Go.. meet... women.... in..... person?............
RedScorpion
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Go to the gym. Get some social hobbies. Live for yourself first, women whatever place after. Women want to attach to a guy's life, not be their life.
PeasantPlayer
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I personally don't like this dudes post, so sufferrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr 
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
resilient
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Trainwreck, instead of focusing/evaluating whatever arm candy some other dude has... use that energy to focus on yourself.
I spent a sizable chunk of the beginning of this year spinning plates as priority #1. I narrowed it down to one bad main plate (poor intuition) and wasn't happy. I felt like I got caught up in a rat race of "MUST GET ABUNDANCE. MUST..... SPIN..... PLATES".
I tried OLD and all I got was crickets. Maybe one low IL chick on Bumble that was just looking for validation. Granted it was before I bulked 25 pounds, yet still... I couldn't stand feeling like I had to rack up plates to be happy.
I've written about my experience in other threads, yet what I want to emphasize here what has helped me is taking the focus off of dating and focusing on areas I have a higher chance of influencing: my life and what I want out of it.
I took up more hobbies late spring and summer, yet the hobby that brings me the most joy is learning the guitar. I like learning everything there is about music, how guitars are made, genres, music history, music theory, influences and follow some of my favorite bands and musicians on social media. I'm never bored, there's always a wealth of information out there.
It's true what @RedScorpion said: Women want to attach to a guy who has a life, not be his life.
Instead of chasing plates, I worked hard on becoming a leader for a community I represent. That has increased my social presence and my social circle is gaining momentum as a result. Just last weekend, two women asked me for my number. At the beginning of this year, I know that wouldn't have happened while I was looking thirsty af.
Anyway, I don't want to ramble here. I just wanted to say don't fixate on others or view others externally for your own happiness or you will continue to get caught up in a web spiral of feeling hopeless.
Create your own hope.
You'll feel happier in the long run when you feel awesome in your own skin. Just don't get too c0cky
I spent a sizable chunk of the beginning of this year spinning plates as priority #1. I narrowed it down to one bad main plate (poor intuition) and wasn't happy. I felt like I got caught up in a rat race of "MUST GET ABUNDANCE. MUST..... SPIN..... PLATES".
I tried OLD and all I got was crickets. Maybe one low IL chick on Bumble that was just looking for validation. Granted it was before I bulked 25 pounds, yet still... I couldn't stand feeling like I had to rack up plates to be happy.
I've written about my experience in other threads, yet what I want to emphasize here what has helped me is taking the focus off of dating and focusing on areas I have a higher chance of influencing: my life and what I want out of it.
I took up more hobbies late spring and summer, yet the hobby that brings me the most joy is learning the guitar. I like learning everything there is about music, how guitars are made, genres, music history, music theory, influences and follow some of my favorite bands and musicians on social media. I'm never bored, there's always a wealth of information out there.
It's true what @RedScorpion said: Women want to attach to a guy who has a life, not be his life.
Instead of chasing plates, I worked hard on becoming a leader for a community I represent. That has increased my social presence and my social circle is gaining momentum as a result. Just last weekend, two women asked me for my number. At the beginning of this year, I know that wouldn't have happened while I was looking thirsty af.
Anyway, I don't want to ramble here. I just wanted to say don't fixate on others or view others externally for your own happiness or you will continue to get caught up in a web spiral of feeling hopeless.
Create your own hope.
You'll feel happier in the long run when you feel awesome in your own skin. Just don't get too c0cky
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Inculcate cool. You won't be so thirsty, and you'll just naturally meet women.