"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I feel a flake coming..

Genesis5

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5th date with this girl:

Me: Hey X, Going to swing over around 7:30 tonight. That work?

Her: Hey you the only issue is, we have a client coming in last minute and I'm not sure how long the meeting will last. It shouldn't be too late but just wanted to let you know. All these dealers want to just drop by since they're in Florida

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She's never flaked on me before, we rescheduled one date earlier but I get a weird sense I'm being setup for a flake.

Any good prevention? ignore? Make other dates? smash?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BeTheChange

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Spin plates.

As a general rule, unless you know the girl to be reliable based on past behaviour you should have another girl, or at the very least another activity scheduled for the same time. You can't discern reliability in 4 dates.

That way if she flakes you will always have something or someone else to keep you occupied.
 

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So 4 dates... have you had sex with her yet? Is she initiating texts to ask how you are throughout the week? This could be a case of being super busy or luke warm attention. Don't reschedule then. If she's got even slight high interest and you disappear for a few days, she'll text you.

1. Don't act butt hurt
2. Go ghost and wait for her to text
3. Get more girls to talk to
4. Get more hobbies to fill up nights :)
 

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CMNILS87

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Amazing how the most important details are the ones always left out, lmao
It's seriously night and day. You give her the ride of her life on your bed, in the shower, wherever. She'll text everyday and chase you for good sex 24/7.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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marmel75

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It's seriously night and day. You give her the ride of her life on your bed, in the shower, wherever. She'll text everyday and chase you for good sex 24/7.
Yeah pretty much, at first at lesst...after a while they may drop you if they don't feel like you are really into them other than the sex however...
 

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"Cool. We'll do another time then."
 

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Wow... to five dates, and then the flake??

I usually get the flake on the 2nd date, and sometimes the 3rd... which I prefer.:D
 
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