"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I feel a flake coming..

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5th date with this girl:

Me: Hey X, Going to swing over around 7:30 tonight. That work?

Her: Hey you the only issue is, we have a client coming in last minute and I'm not sure how long the meeting will last. It shouldn't be too late but just wanted to let you know. All these dealers want to just drop by since they're in Florida

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She's never flaked on me before, we rescheduled one date earlier but I get a weird sense I'm being setup for a flake.

Any good prevention? ignore? Make other dates? smash?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Spin plates.

As a general rule, unless you know the girl to be reliable based on past behaviour you should have another girl, or at the very least another activity scheduled for the same time. You can't discern reliability in 4 dates.

That way if she flakes you will always have something or someone else to keep you occupied.
 
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So 4 dates... have you had sex with her yet? Is she initiating texts to ask how you are throughout the week? This could be a case of being super busy or luke warm attention. Don't reschedule then. If she's got even slight high interest and you disappear for a few days, she'll text you.

1. Don't act butt hurt
2. Go ghost and wait for her to text
3. Get more girls to talk to
4. Get more hobbies to fill up nights :)
 
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marmel75 said:
Amazing how the most important details are the ones always left out, lmao
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It's seriously night and day. You give her the ride of her life on your bed, in the shower, wherever. She'll text everyday and chase you for good sex 24/7.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CMNILS87 said:
It's seriously night and day. You give her the ride of her life on your bed, in the shower, wherever. She'll text everyday and chase you for good sex 24/7.
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Yeah pretty much, at first at lesst...after a while they may drop you if they don't feel like you are really into them other than the sex however...
 
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"Cool. We'll do another time then."
 
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Wow... to five dates, and then the flake??

I usually get the flake on the 2nd date, and sometimes the 3rd... which I prefer.:D
 
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