You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
There must be millions of girls like this.She is classy, tall, big boobs and perfert body.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mess with a married woman and turn into this guy.Luke Skywalker said:There is this married woman at the office and there has been some nice romantic moments with her as follows:
Gestures that I make towards her, and that she makes towards me, puts me into cloud 9. In the past I would use a fleshlight and imagine she was right next to me. We would have an imaginary nice time in bed together - she would be undertanding of my inexperience and I lost my virginity with her. I usually felt very nice after that imaginary fleshlight experience. (December - January bracket that occurred)
wow this has to be the creepiest thing ive ever read. you sound like one of those stalkers or serial killers on a tv show...you have a shrine for this woman? who cares if she gave you your nametag that doesnt mean anything...wow you updated your picture on the real estate page big deal. seriously man shes just being nice to you which != wanting to bone youLuke Skywalker said:There is this married woman at the office and there has been some nice romantic moments with her as follows:
1) I sent her a personal note and she appeared pleased to read it, we hugged each other afterwards.
2) On a particular convention, we sat beside each other. We went out for lunch. She noticed I forgot to pick up my name-tag and picked it up for me. If she didn't do it, I would have forgot completely about the name tag, and I would have no name tag on.
3) I asked to borrow a pen. She had only one pen available. She gave me her only pen. When I went to return it, she told me to keep it so I'll remember all our nice moments together. The pen really made me think of her. I have it in an envelope downstairs marked "Limerance" on it to control my thoughts towards her -- since that pen really makes me think about her.
4) She sat beside me during an office meeting and put her hand behind my head while I was looking at the meeting. Sometimes she'll get out of her seat and sit next to an empty seat beside me.
5) She's the only person who noticed that I had an updated photo on the Real-Estate website. No other agent noticed this. She put up her "thumbs up" at me.
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Gestures that I make towards her, and that she makes towards me, puts me into cloud 9. In the past I would use a fleshlight and imagine she was right next to me. We would have an imaginary nice time in bed together - she would be undertanding of my inexperience and I lost my virginity with her. I usually felt very nice after that imaginary fleshlight experience. (December - January bracket that occurred)
Due to strict religious codes, I've done my best as possible to isolate this into just a "virtual romance" since it appeared to be a real threat. THis is seen as the lesser of two evils. Most of everything is just inside the mind since every nice small thing is amplified the way I'm set up.
Before her, I would never believe that I would have the faintest attraction to any married woman. Usually when I find out they are married, I'd just turn off and see her as unavailable. However, this one was different for some reason. It's like I just feel a connnection with her -- some sort of minor limerance or something I guess. When I hear her voice it just turns me on.
I guess -- women are women. I'm a guy. I could get attracted to any woman, married or not. How I respond to it, is based on moral considerations. Now that I have a long-distance girlfriend, who visited me and has returned back, I don't want to mess with it. I'm not going to pursue this married woman directly or subconciously via business -- although it would seem very tempting if she remains friendly with me.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Wow. Dude you need to get out more and see other women and stop obsessing. You sound like a fvcking creep. Not only that, but you remind me of myself when I was in 7th grade and got all excited thinking that a girl liked me whenever she picked up my pencil or even bothered to acknowledge me.Luke Skywalker said:There is this married woman at the office and there has been some nice romantic moments with her as follows:
1) I sent her a personal note and she appeared pleased to read it, we hugged each other afterwards.
2) On a particular convention, we sat beside each other. We went out for lunch. She noticed I forgot to pick up my name-tag and picked it up for me. If she didn't do it, I would have forgot completely about the name tag, and I would have no name tag on.
3) I asked to borrow a pen. She had only one pen available. She gave me her only pen. When I went to return it, she told me to keep it so I'll remember all our nice moments together. The pen really made me think of her. I have it in an envelope downstairs marked "Limerance" on it to control my thoughts towards her -- since that pen really makes me think about her.
4) She sat beside me during an office meeting and put her hand behind my head while I was looking at the meeting. Sometimes she'll get out of her seat and sit next to an empty seat beside me.
5) She's the only person who noticed that I had an updated photo on the Real-Estate website. No other agent noticed this. She put up her "thumbs up" at me.
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Gestures that I make towards her, and that she makes towards me, puts me into cloud 9. In the past I would use a fleshlight and imagine she was right next to me. We would have an imaginary nice time in bed together - she would be undertanding of my inexperience and I lost my virginity with her. I usually felt very nice after that imaginary fleshlight experience. (December - January bracket that occurred)
Due to strict religious codes, I've done my best as possible to isolate this into just a "virtual romance" since it appeared to be a real threat. THis is seen as the lesser of two evils. Most of everything is just inside the mind since every nice small thing is amplified the way I'm set up.
Before her, I would never believe that I would have the faintest attraction to any married woman. Usually when I find out they are married, I'd just turn off and see her as unavailable. However, this one was different for some reason. It's like I just feel a connnection with her -- some sort of minor limerance or something I guess. When I hear her voice it just turns me on.
I guess -- women are women. I'm a guy. I could get attracted to any woman, married or not. How I respond to it, is based on moral considerations. Now that I have a long-distance girlfriend, who visited me and has returned back, I don't want to mess with it. I'm not going to pursue this married woman directly or subconciously via business -- although it would seem very tempting if she remains friendly with me.
LOL, this is the funniest creepiest **** I have ever read. You my good boy, are a freak. Total utter freak. Good lord, you probably insert her pen up your vagina and thinking it's her.Luke Skywalker said:There is this married woman at the office and there has been some nice romantic moments with her as follows:
1) I sent her a personal note and she appeared pleased to read it, we hugged each other afterwards.
2) On a particular convention, we sat beside each other. We went out for lunch. She noticed I forgot to pick up my name-tag and picked it up for me. If she didn't do it, I would have forgot completely about the name tag, and I would have no name tag on.
3) I asked to borrow a pen. She had only one pen available. She gave me her only pen. When I went to return it, she told me to keep it so I'll remember all our nice moments together. The pen really made me think of her. I have it in an envelope downstairs marked "Limerance" on it to control my thoughts towards her -- since that pen really makes me think about her.
4) She sat beside me during an office meeting and put her hand behind my head while I was looking at the meeting. Sometimes she'll get out of her seat and sit next to an empty seat beside me.
5) She's the only person who noticed that I had an updated photo on the Real-Estate website. No other agent noticed this. She put up her "thumbs up" at me.
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Gestures that I make towards her, and that she makes towards me, puts me into cloud 9. In the past I would use a fleshlight and imagine she was right next to me. We would have an imaginary nice time in bed together - she would be undertanding of my inexperience and I lost my virginity with her. I usually felt very nice after that imaginary fleshlight experience. (December - January bracket that occurred)
Due to strict religious codes, I've done my best as possible to isolate this into just a "virtual romance" since it appeared to be a real threat. THis is seen as the lesser of two evils. Most of everything is just inside the mind since every nice small thing is amplified the way I'm set up.
Before her, I would never believe that I would have the faintest attraction to any married woman. Usually when I find out they are married, I'd just turn off and see her as unavailable. However, this one was different for some reason. It's like I just feel a connnection with her -- some sort of minor limerance or something I guess. When I hear her voice it just turns me on.
I guess -- women are women. I'm a guy. I could get attracted to any woman, married or not. How I respond to it, is based on moral considerations. Now that I have a long-distance girlfriend, who visited me and has returned back, I don't want to mess with it. I'm not going to pursue this married woman directly or subconciously via business -- although it would seem very tempting if she remains friendly with me.
I'm glad to see that someone is appreciating my work.CaptainJ said:LOL, this is the funniest creepiest **** I have ever read. You my good boy, are a freak. Total utter freak. Good lord, you probably insert her pen up your vagina and thinking it's her.
I was having my fun. You can think about whatever you want.CaptainJ said:Are you mentally retarded or something? Because you sound like a wacko stalker.
I don't have a shrine for any woman. Whatever I said about this women occurred in January -- that includes any virtual stuff. That's over two months ago. I don't even have a fleshlight around anymore as that is in the basement for long-term storage.pua1989 said:wow this has to be the creepiest thing ive ever read. you sound like one of those stalkers or serial killers on a tv show...you have a shrine for this woman?
First of all, I don't consider giving any form of false hope being nice. If I've expressed interest in her (by hugging her and kising her on her cheek), then if she's encouraging or feeding me I don't think that would mean just being nice. Since I've never fully pursued her I'm not going to be able to get to the bottom of her, but neither can anyone else. The window of opportunity for that would have been around December/January when this was at a maximum.pua1989 said:who cares if she gave you your nametag that doesnt mean anything...wow you updated your picture on the real estate page big deal. seriously man shes just being nice to you which != wanting to bone you
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If that's what you think, then why are you reading it. That says something about your personal tastes!djinhell said:Skywalker man, your a fvcking loser troll. Ban this douche!!!
all you ever post is sh!t
Unfortunately Luke, theres no warning in the thread title that it contains stupid posts by you inside. If there was, then I wouldn't have read it!Luke Skywalker said:If that's what you think, then why are you reading it. That says something about your personal tastes!
Yeah there was. You opened a sick thread. Falling in love with a married woman? You want to read a sick thread like that. You get more than you bargained for.djinhell said:Unfortunately Luke, theres no warning in the thread title that it contains stupid posts by you inside. If there was, then I wouldn't have read it!
If you have a compelling need to reply to everything that I say, then maybe you have the mental disability and are projecting it on to me. It's a psychological phenomina known as projection.Jaggs said:You have a serious mental disability Luke.
SERIOUS. MENTAL. DISABILITY.
fvcked in the head!
your God won't help you out of it either =\.
Damn why do I feel a compelling need to reply to everything Luke says. He is the ultimate troll.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.