"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Once again I turn to So Suave for some opinions. Once again, just cliff notes.

1. Interested in Girl A.
2. Girl B is interested in me for some time.
3. Girl A isn't friends with Girl B, but I am pretty sure she knows of her.
4. I like Girl A, but don't wanna mess it up by humping around.
5. What now?

Girl A: Taken, but is slowly moving towards breaking up BF. I am not playing a part in that crap, nor do I want to be a captain save a hoe.

Girl B: Single.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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F*** Girl B while you wait that Girl A gets jealous, and starts going all over you.
 

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Do you like Girl B? If you do, then give her a chance. Don't sit around waiting until Girl A is available.

Does Girl A even like you "that way"?
 

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oh oh!! let me help on this one. i already had something like this and f-d it up. it depends on the foundation you've laid with girl A. if she likes you and you've made it clear that you've got some interest in her, then the sh!t'll hit the fan if you go after B. trust me.
 

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assuming you've got close to the same interest in both girls.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Gangster Of Love said:
Do you like Girl B? If you do, then give her a chance. Don't sit around waiting until Girl A is available.

Does Girl A even like you "that way"?
Girl A: Yes. And I made it clear to her that I am interested in her and she reciprocated.

Girl B: She just wants to hump like rabbits.
 

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Well, she has no say until she ends it with her boyfriend and officially gets with you.

That should be done soon. What is the wait for? If it is happening soon, just wait it out.

If Girl B wants to just bang, why should anybody else know?
 

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alright i think you could make a case for going either way here. if you go after girl b solely for sex you always have the arguement of "sorry girl a but you were in a relationship. i don't sit around and wait for people. i do what i want. " which will earn you respect as well as make you more of a prize. the main problem i see with going after a only is that you'll be more of a rebound kinda guy. unless you give her a while to get over it. so pro's and con's for each.
 

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I had a situation like this.

What I did: Focused completely on Girl A. I was still friendly and courteous to Girl B, just not interested.

What ended up happening was...

Girl A breaks up with her boyfriend, dates me for a while then becomes impossible to deal with before things ever got the chance to really escalate.

Girl B moves on, and I'm currently trying to rekindle things without much success. Now kicking myself over what I should have done in hindsight and wondering if I made a mistake.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gangster Of Love said:
Well, she has no say until she ends it with her boyfriend and officially gets with you.

That should be done soon. What is the wait for? If it is happening soon, just wait it out.

If Girl B wants to just bang, why should anybody else know?

Being discrete would be nice. However I am in the younger age bracket, so I think more girls are more inclined to talk.

Not that I care as to whatever anyone thinks. In fact, I think Girl A can be a bit of an attention ***** at times.
 

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(JJ) said:
alright i think you could make a case for going either way here. if you go after girl b solely for sex you always have the arguement of "sorry girl a but you were in a relationship. i don't sit around and wait for people. i do what i want. " which will earn you respect as well as make you more of a prize. the main problem i see with going after a only is that you'll be more of a rebound kinda guy. unless you give her a while to get over it. so pro's and con's for each.
Which is why I'll make her do all the work. I'll occasionally give her the random positive reinforcement for whatever efforts she puts in to keep me around.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
I had a situation like this.

What I did: Focused completely on Girl A. I was still friendly and courteous to Girl B, just not interested.

What ended up happening was...

Girl A breaks up with her boyfriend, dates me for a while then becomes impossible to deal with before things ever got the chance to really escalate.

Girl B moves on, and I'm currently trying to rekindle things without much success. Now kicking myself over what I should have done in hindsight and wondering if I made a mistake.

I guess what I should take from this post is to just grab life by the nuts and get my FREAK ON SON!

I digress, but why should I wait around for her right?
 

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Altruist said:
Once again I turn to So Suave for some opinions. Once again, just cliff notes.

1. Interested in Girl A.
2. Girl B is interested in me for some time.
3. Girl A isn't friends with Girl B, but I am pretty sure she knows of her.
4. I like Girl A, but don't wanna mess it up by humping around.
5. What now?

Girl A: Taken, but is slowly moving towards breaking up BF. I am not playing a part in that crap, nor do I want to be a captain save a hoe.

Girl B: Single.
Even from this Cliff Notes version isn't the answer redily apparent?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Even from this Cliff Notes version isn't the answer redily apparent?
It is and it isn't. Hey sometimes you need to hear it from someone else to begin to believe it....

So your advice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why is Girl A moving SLOWLY towards breaking up with bf?

This should tell you what to do. You move FASTLY into the sack with Girl B.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
Why is Girl A moving SLOWLY towards breaking up with bf?

This should tell you what to do. You move FASTLY into the sack with Girl B.

Duly noted. Headed there as we speak.

As for WHY Girl A is moving slowly...cliff notes: Lives with boyfriend, probably has some financial issues moving out, they are tied together with some financial issues.

Just assumptions, tis all.
 

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Altruist said:
Duly noted. Headed there as we speak.

As for WHY Girl A is moving slowly...cliff notes: Lives with boyfriend, probably has some financial issues moving out, they are tied together with some financial issues.

Just assumptions, tis all.
LoL.

Then you know what to do. Go hunt down your own dinner, not another man's. Once that bird is free, and once you have fun with Girl B, then we can discuss the situation.
 

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Altruist said:
Once again I turn to So Suave for some opinions. Once again, just cliff notes.

1. Interested in Girl A.
2. Girl B is interested in me for some time.
3. Girl A isn't friends with Girl B, but I am pretty sure she knows of her.
4. I like Girl A, but don't wanna mess it up by humping around.
5. What now?

Girl A: Taken, but is slowly moving towards breaking up BF. I am not playing a part in that crap, nor do I want to be a captain save a hoe.

Girl B: Single.
Tell Girl A to leave her house at 6:45 pm and travel at 50 km/h to meet you
Tell Girl B to leave her house at 7:05 pm and travel at 65 km/h to meet you
That way when you sleep with them, they will never cross paths.

Why are we going after a girl with a bf anyway? Do you want him to beat the crap out of you?
 

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Altruist said:
I guess what I should take from this post is to just grab life by the nuts and get my FREAK ON SON!

I digress, but why should I wait around for her right?
Yea man. Take everyone at face value. Don't get up in the moment with Girl A. Especially if Girl B is a catch...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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