MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I like her shoes.
I guess it's like Red's line in "The Shawshank Redemption" about Andy walking around with new, polished shoes before his breakout.I like her shoes.
Modern Man Advice
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I've got the Firefox "Bypass Paywalls" add-on, and it works so well, I don't even realize it.I like the paywall even better.
It's a reason why people like this is called white trash, but she is also a perfect example of bad life choices.I don't think I've seen a chick hit the wall at 51 any worse than this
Never take dead-end jobs like working in call-center unless it is for short period, (e.g. want to learn/improve the skillset that they offer through the job like sales/customer service) or you actually own the call center yourself. Taking the quick and easy route of the least resistance (Hint... It's the hard life route in reality), will lead you nowhere literally. She did this to herself and now she's got what she deserves.The setbacks that led to Niffenegger’s life outside — a word she prefers to “homeless,” which she can’t bring herself to say — started in early 2019, when she lost her job at a call center. She tried to forestall financial disaster with credit cards, applying for two that hit her with $89 in fees for every $300 she charged. She ran up debts of nearly $1,000 buying groceries, and pretty soon she couldn’t make the payments. “My credit just exploded and went down to nothing,” she says.
I was left homeless by a certain weather event in the 00sFew women end up homeless. Many women can exchange their vaginas for rent.
I think it is bad that people end up living on a permanent basis in extended stay hotels, which should only be used at most for 2-3 month stays in a city. Maybe something like an extended work project. I think the article brought up some really good points about housing.