"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I don't love her, but she loves me. Any tips?

anonymousguy

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Hey,

Here's the thing: I'm not interested in this particular woman. She isn't the right woman for me. Now, she is "waiting" for me, but I want to show her that she has to move on and stop wasting time on me.
What must I do? I want to do this as gentle as possible.

Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Freddy1

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Try to set her up with some other guy might help.
 

Luveno

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Who cares if she thinks that. If you don't think that, well then you've done your part.

If she gets in your face about it, tell her straight up that you're not interested in her. How she deals with it is her problem.

If she stalks you afterwards, get the police.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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MightyMate said:
You cant do it gentle. Just tell her You are backwith Your ex. Thats most gentle You can do.
Ummm, what if a woman you were dating told you that? Would you actually consider that gentle? That she was still "in contact" with her ex while she was seeing you?

If you're not digging a woman, just tell her that you "aren't feeling the chemistry." She'll get it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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