"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I don't know that many girls, What do I do?
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
trying2fit
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uhh u should play a sport if u can
if not you can always pick up girls at parties...but those don't last long
better yet if u just pick up on a girl you used to talk to alot.
but what do u want? sex? girlfriend to brag? relationship?
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Seems there is no one thing you should do, it's a whole program. And it doesn't happen over night, so buckle up for a long ride. It's worth it.
What everybody says: work out, sign up for hobbies (even if you don't find femmes there hobbies make you interesting and help you grow), get out as much as possible. Learn a certain mindset.
There is no easy answer to this. If there was, everyone would be doing it. But there are things that will help you improve in the long run.
I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
Hey man, you may think that your situation sucks but the end of the High School is also the beginning of the rest of your life! You'll get a fresh start in college and you will have a much better chance and definitely more friends. Don't skip going to college!JPlaya said:I'm about to graduate high school so that ain't helping. I have like 2 girls numbers:nono: so far. I just got out of my shy shell, so I'm new. I guess I'm like a 7/10, nothing special.
As long as you're making this post here, why don't you tell us a few things about yourself and what your sticking points are. In case you don't know what sticking points are, they're the things you have the most difficulty with, you know like when you feel anxious, nervous or insecure in a certain situation, or if you're hesitant to do something.
If you give us more info about yourself, you will get much more useful advice out of the people at Sosuave.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
JPlaya, you definitely need to read this article if you haven't already. It's called Kill That Desperation! written by Pook.JPlaya said:Well since I was anti social throughout high school, I ended up not knowing any girls. I thought this one girl liked me, but idk I think I got friendzoned lol. I guess my problem is initiating flirting and talking to girls. I'm not scared, I just don't know what to say.
This article called Destroying Social Phobias written by Mr. Fingers, will also give you some great information to use to initiate more conversations, meet new people, and to overall become more social.
Here's a third article that I find very simple and helpful on the topic of conversation. It's called How to be a better conversationalist written by Poet.
If I may add a final word of advice - ONLY posting here at Sosuave (especially if you're a casual poster) will NOT cause you to improve with your social life and your abilities with women.
The magic words that will allow you to get all the women of your dreams is EFFORT, PRACTICE, and EVERYDAY.