"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I don't know that many girls, What do I do?
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
trying2fit
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uhh u should play a sport if u can
if not you can always pick up girls at parties...but those don't last long
better yet if u just pick up on a girl you used to talk to alot.
but what do u want? sex? girlfriend to brag? relationship?
Wolfgang D
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Seems there is no one thing you should do, it's a whole program. And it doesn't happen over night, so buckle up for a long ride. It's worth it.
What everybody says: work out, sign up for hobbies (even if you don't find femmes there hobbies make you interesting and help you grow), get out as much as possible. Learn a certain mindset.
There is no easy answer to this. If there was, everyone would be doing it. But there are things that will help you improve in the long run.
I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
Hey man, you may think that your situation sucks but the end of the High School is also the beginning of the rest of your life! You'll get a fresh start in college and you will have a much better chance and definitely more friends. Don't skip going to college!JPlaya said:I'm about to graduate high school so that ain't helping. I have like 2 girls numbers:nono: so far. I just got out of my shy shell, so I'm new. I guess I'm like a 7/10, nothing special.
As long as you're making this post here, why don't you tell us a few things about yourself and what your sticking points are. In case you don't know what sticking points are, they're the things you have the most difficulty with, you know like when you feel anxious, nervous or insecure in a certain situation, or if you're hesitant to do something.
If you give us more info about yourself, you will get much more useful advice out of the people at Sosuave.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
JPlaya, you definitely need to read this article if you haven't already. It's called Kill That Desperation! written by Pook.JPlaya said:Well since I was anti social throughout high school, I ended up not knowing any girls. I thought this one girl liked me, but idk I think I got friendzoned lol. I guess my problem is initiating flirting and talking to girls. I'm not scared, I just don't know what to say.
This article called Destroying Social Phobias written by Mr. Fingers, will also give you some great information to use to initiate more conversations, meet new people, and to overall become more social.
Here's a third article that I find very simple and helpful on the topic of conversation. It's called How to be a better conversationalist written by Poet.
If I may add a final word of advice - ONLY posting here at Sosuave (especially if you're a casual poster) will NOT cause you to improve with your social life and your abilities with women.
The magic words that will allow you to get all the women of your dreams is EFFORT, PRACTICE, and EVERYDAY.