Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I don't know how to comfort/cheer my GF when she needs it.

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Bible_Belt said:
If ANY woman on this Earth said ANY of these things to me:

-she feels that I lack initiative and effort, I'm this, I'm that.

-her heart says that something is wrong.

-She sometimes feel that I'm like a friend and not more. She expects a BF to be reliable, making her feel safe and calm. But I haven't met her standard yet.


And then had the nerve to follow it up with:

-Despite all that, she feels that I'm still irreplaceable in her heart for now. She loves no other man other than me.

The instant a woman even begins to tell you that you are not good enough for her, cut off with "ok, it's been fun!" and march right out of her life. If there is any hope of good relationship, then she will run after you.
Well, she didn't exactly say "for now." The more exact words are: "There's still nobody that can replace you. I still can't love a man except you."

At least I DID propose a breakup. But when she said she didn't want to and still loved me, it made me reconsider. Beside, I still love her, too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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KontrollerX said:
I think in the case of them both they are co-dependants too afraid they won't get anyone else so they cling to each other.
I think the thing that's keeping our relationship last is our love to each other. No matter what problems we had, love conquered them all.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
Sounds like you don't love her that much since you suggested the split.
Since when does suggesting a split mean a person doesn't love his/her partner that much? ;)
 

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Fela Kuti said:
Since when does suggesting a split mean a person doesn't love his/her partner that much? ;)
I'm missing something, in this case how exactly does it enforce your love for her? :confused:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I'm missing something, in this case how exactly does it enforce your love for her? :confused:
I don't know, I was so confused. On one hand, I loved her. On the other hand, I was afraid the relationship won't work out in the long run..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fela Kuti said:
I don't know, I was so confused. On one hand, I loved her. On the other hand, I was afraid the relationship won't work out in the long run..
Alright, let's stop making assumptions about the worse based on generalities. Getting to the specifics, what exactly can the two of you do differently to help the relationship that would be so terrible that it makes you afraid of trying it because of fear of failure?
 
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