"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I don't know how to comfort/cheer my GF when she needs it.

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Bible_Belt said:
If ANY woman on this Earth said ANY of these things to me:

-she feels that I lack initiative and effort, I'm this, I'm that.

-her heart says that something is wrong.

-She sometimes feel that I'm like a friend and not more. She expects a BF to be reliable, making her feel safe and calm. But I haven't met her standard yet.


And then had the nerve to follow it up with:

-Despite all that, she feels that I'm still irreplaceable in her heart for now. She loves no other man other than me.

The instant a woman even begins to tell you that you are not good enough for her, cut off with "ok, it's been fun!" and march right out of her life. If there is any hope of good relationship, then she will run after you.
Well, she didn't exactly say "for now." The more exact words are: "There's still nobody that can replace you. I still can't love a man except you."

At least I DID propose a breakup. But when she said she didn't want to and still loved me, it made me reconsider. Beside, I still love her, too.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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KontrollerX said:
I think in the case of them both they are co-dependants too afraid they won't get anyone else so they cling to each other.
I think the thing that's keeping our relationship last is our love to each other. No matter what problems we had, love conquered them all.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
Sounds like you don't love her that much since you suggested the split.
Since when does suggesting a split mean a person doesn't love his/her partner that much? ;)
 

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Fela Kuti said:
Since when does suggesting a split mean a person doesn't love his/her partner that much? ;)
I'm missing something, in this case how exactly does it enforce your love for her? :confused:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I'm missing something, in this case how exactly does it enforce your love for her? :confused:
I don't know, I was so confused. On one hand, I loved her. On the other hand, I was afraid the relationship won't work out in the long run..
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Fela Kuti said:
I don't know, I was so confused. On one hand, I loved her. On the other hand, I was afraid the relationship won't work out in the long run..
Alright, let's stop making assumptions about the worse based on generalities. Getting to the specifics, what exactly can the two of you do differently to help the relationship that would be so terrible that it makes you afraid of trying it because of fear of failure?
 
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