I don't know how to comfort/cheer my GF when she needs it.

[Fela Kuti]

If ANY woman on this Earth said ANY of these things to me:

-she feels that I lack initiative and effort, I'm this, I'm that.

-her heart says that something is wrong.

-She sometimes feel that I'm like a friend and not more. She expects a BF to be reliable, making her feel safe and calm. But I haven't met her standard yet.


And then had the nerve to follow it up with:

-Despite all that, she feels that I'm still irreplaceable in her heart for now. She loves no other man other than me.

The instant a woman even begins to tell you that you are not good enough for her, cut off with "ok, it's been fun!" and march right out of her life. If there is any hope of good relationship, then she will run after you.

Well, she didn't exactly say "for now." The more exact words are: "There's still nobody that can replace you. I still can't love a man except you."

At least I DID propose a breakup. But when she said she didn't want to and still loved me, it made me reconsider. Beside, I still love her, too.

 

[Fela Kuti]

I think in the case of them both they are co-dependants too afraid they won't get anyone else so they cling to each other.

I think the thing that's keeping our relationship last is our love to each other. No matter what problems we had, love conquered them all.

 

[Fela Kuti]

Sounds like you don't love her that much since you suggested the split.

Since when does suggesting a split mean a person doesn't love his/her partner that much?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Since when does suggesting a split mean a person doesn't love his/her partner that much?

I'm missing something, in this case how exactly does it enforce your love for her?

 

[Fela Kuti]

I'm missing something, in this case how exactly does it enforce your love for her?

I don't know, I was so confused. On one hand, I loved her. On the other hand, I was afraid the relationship won't work out in the long run..

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't know, I was so confused. On one hand, I loved her. On the other hand, I was afraid the relationship won't work out in the long run..

Alright, let's stop making assumptions about the worse based on generalities. Getting to the specifics, what exactly can the two of you do differently to help the relationship that would be so terrible that it makes you afraid of trying it because of fear of failure?