Other than say work, or going out shopping, I don't get out much. This is part of my problem. I have always had problems like "I can't do it, I'm a loser, I lack this or that,I'm not special or exceptional", etc. I see all these other people who seem to be, and that's why they have the girl(s), the money, the job, the power. I am here, just a regular guy. This what I am up against. I don't know if I have that drive, that survival. This is what scares me, esp when it comes to starting a family at some point.I haven't been focusing on improving, working out, being happier, confident, etc. I have to find a way.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I don't get out much...
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
Dont bother telling something. He's either a troll or someone desperate for some attention and pity. If you're not a troll, read this: we cant help you. Google "social Anxiety forum".
Give yourself a goal. Things like owning a car if you don't already have one. If you want a girlfriend that could be your goal too. Then work on getting your goals. And don't forget to read the DJ Bible. You really need to start from the bottom I think.
Once you find out what a real man should be, you'll be on the right path automatically. Be a man dude. It's not about what you can't do. It's about what you wanna do. You can do anything. Don't give up bro. I've been in your shoes before!~
Once you find out what a real man should be, you'll be on the right path automatically. Be a man dude. It's not about what you can't do. It's about what you wanna do. You can do anything. Don't give up bro. I've been in your shoes before!~
I do give myself goals. I always have, yet, I don't seem to fulfill them for many reasons. One being anxiety of sorts. Yeah, getting a solid,steady gf has been a goal for me, but I have never had, well, I feel anything to offer. Or I should be asking, what can they offer me? I haven't started, I have been on the bottom for so long it feels, that the top is a long ways off.
Plus, I am convicned, I am depressed, like majorly. What can I do to get over it? I have the symptoms.http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/depression.php
Plus, I am convicned, I am depressed, like majorly. What can I do to get over it? I have the symptoms.http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/depression.php
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
Easy! Just start therapy.
Ken785
Master Don Juan
So...im guessing Its NOT On Now?? ahahaItsOnNow said:
jk bro...well try to find some people in your area to wing with and get out there and get social man...
Ken785
Master Don Juan
DP...sorry bro.ItsOnNow said:
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You don't know if you have that drive?
Go out and do something extreme! This will awaken your drive for sure!
Some time ago, I decided to visit my parents by bike (~110 miles). I had never done such a tour before. I didn't even have a proper map. Worse yet, heavy headwind.
I was NOT sure if I would make it. At about 60 miles, I felt like I was finished for good.
But there was no turning back. I emptied the bottle and hit the road. It was on now.
After what seemed like an eternity, I arrived at my parents' house, with a terrible pain in my butt - and a huge grin on my face.
P.S.: while it might not sound too extreme, back then for me it sure was! And I still smile when I remember it.
Go out and do something extreme! This will awaken your drive for sure!
Some time ago, I decided to visit my parents by bike (~110 miles). I had never done such a tour before. I didn't even have a proper map. Worse yet, heavy headwind.
I was NOT sure if I would make it. At about 60 miles, I felt like I was finished for good.
But there was no turning back. I emptied the bottle and hit the road. It was on now.
After what seemed like an eternity, I arrived at my parents' house, with a terrible pain in my butt - and a huge grin on my face.
P.S.: while it might not sound too extreme, back then for me it sure was! And I still smile when I remember it.
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
another pity thread.
you had me at, "I'm a loser." You don't want to get better.
Here's a tip: The more you post pity threads, the more you reinforce yourself as a loser.
you had me at, "I'm a loser." You don't want to get better.
Here's a tip: The more you post pity threads, the more you reinforce yourself as a loser.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I know. My mind is locked on this, and it's something I take too seriously and I turn it into something more than what it is. I try not to pity myself, but I am having trouble letting go.
Like I can't even make the effort to have positive thoughts.
It's this feeling of not having the right skills I guess. The seduction skills if you would. The sweet/dirty talk, game, confidence, etc.
Like I can't even make the effort to have positive thoughts.
It's this feeling of not having the right skills I guess. The seduction skills if you would. The sweet/dirty talk, game, confidence, etc.
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