Other than say work, or going out shopping, I don't get out much. This is part of my problem. I have always had problems like "I can't do it, I'm a loser, I lack this or that,I'm not special or exceptional", etc. I see all these other people who seem to be, and that's why they have the girl(s), the money, the job, the power. I am here, just a regular guy. This what I am up against. I don't know if I have that drive, that survival. This is what scares me, esp when it comes to starting a family at some point.I haven't been focusing on improving, working out, being happier, confident, etc. I have to find a way.
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I don't get out much...
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Nygard
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Dont bother telling something. He's either a troll or someone desperate for some attention and pity. If you're not a troll, read this: we cant help you. Google "social Anxiety forum".
Give yourself a goal. Things like owning a car if you don't already have one. If you want a girlfriend that could be your goal too. Then work on getting your goals. And don't forget to read the DJ Bible. You really need to start from the bottom I think.
Once you find out what a real man should be, you'll be on the right path automatically. Be a man dude. It's not about what you can't do. It's about what you wanna do. You can do anything. Don't give up bro. I've been in your shoes before!~
Once you find out what a real man should be, you'll be on the right path automatically. Be a man dude. It's not about what you can't do. It's about what you wanna do. You can do anything. Don't give up bro. I've been in your shoes before!~
I do give myself goals. I always have, yet, I don't seem to fulfill them for many reasons. One being anxiety of sorts. Yeah, getting a solid,steady gf has been a goal for me, but I have never had, well, I feel anything to offer. Or I should be asking, what can they offer me? I haven't started, I have been on the bottom for so long it feels, that the top is a long ways off.
Plus, I am convicned, I am depressed, like majorly. What can I do to get over it? I have the symptoms.http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/depression.php
Plus, I am convicned, I am depressed, like majorly. What can I do to get over it? I have the symptoms.http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/depression.php
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
Easy! Just start therapy.
Ken785
Master Don Juan
So...im guessing Its NOT On Now?? ahahaItsOnNow said:
jk bro...well try to find some people in your area to wing with and get out there and get social man...
Ken785
Master Don Juan
DP...sorry bro.ItsOnNow said:
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You don't know if you have that drive?
Go out and do something extreme! This will awaken your drive for sure!
Some time ago, I decided to visit my parents by bike (~110 miles). I had never done such a tour before. I didn't even have a proper map. Worse yet, heavy headwind.
I was NOT sure if I would make it. At about 60 miles, I felt like I was finished for good.
But there was no turning back. I emptied the bottle and hit the road. It was on now.
After what seemed like an eternity, I arrived at my parents' house, with a terrible pain in my butt - and a huge grin on my face.
P.S.: while it might not sound too extreme, back then for me it sure was! And I still smile when I remember it.
Go out and do something extreme! This will awaken your drive for sure!
Some time ago, I decided to visit my parents by bike (~110 miles). I had never done such a tour before. I didn't even have a proper map. Worse yet, heavy headwind.
I was NOT sure if I would make it. At about 60 miles, I felt like I was finished for good.
But there was no turning back. I emptied the bottle and hit the road. It was on now.
After what seemed like an eternity, I arrived at my parents' house, with a terrible pain in my butt - and a huge grin on my face.
P.S.: while it might not sound too extreme, back then for me it sure was! And I still smile when I remember it.
DarthAngel707
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another pity thread.
you had me at, "I'm a loser." You don't want to get better.
Here's a tip: The more you post pity threads, the more you reinforce yourself as a loser.
you had me at, "I'm a loser." You don't want to get better.
Here's a tip: The more you post pity threads, the more you reinforce yourself as a loser.
I know. My mind is locked on this, and it's something I take too seriously and I turn it into something more than what it is. I try not to pity myself, but I am having trouble letting go.
Like I can't even make the effort to have positive thoughts.
It's this feeling of not having the right skills I guess. The seduction skills if you would. The sweet/dirty talk, game, confidence, etc.
Like I can't even make the effort to have positive thoughts.
It's this feeling of not having the right skills I guess. The seduction skills if you would. The sweet/dirty talk, game, confidence, etc.
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