"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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frusciante1234

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hey guys, im new here so whats up

ok, this girl i went out with for a short time last year wants to hang out with me again. but its complicated. First of all, i really liked her and i spent some time trying to get her back but really just pushed her away. so eventually i gave up and haven't talked to her for like 5 months. 2 weeks ago i ran into her and she seemed really happy to see me, gave me a huge hug and the first thing she said to me was that she broke up with her boyfriend. So that seemed like a good sign to me. She told me to call her that night to hang out, but i didnt cause i was busy and had too much **** to do. Then i went on vacation for 2 weeks so i didnt talk to her.

So today i give her a call just to catch up with her since i really havent talked to her in like 5 months. When she answered she seemed extremely unenthusiastic, which really threw me off cause she was so happy to see me before. she just sounded like she did not really want to be talking to me. after a short convo, she said she wants to hang out next week (shes at her beach house right now) but i think she could have just been saying that. so im wondering if anyone can help me figure out whats goin on here cause i would like to try to get back with her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mr_rogers

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frusciante1234 said:
hey guys, im new here so whats up

ok, this girl i went out with for a short time last year wants to hang out with me again. but its complicated. First of all, i really liked her and i spent some time trying to get her back but really just pushed her away. so eventually i gave up and haven't talked to her for like 5 months. 2 weeks ago i ran into her and she seemed really happy to see me, gave me a huge hug and the first thing she said to me was that she broke up with her boyfriend. So that seemed like a good sign to me. She told me to call her that night to hang out, but i didnt cause i was busy and had too much **** to do. Then i went on vacation for 2 weeks so i didnt talk to her.

So today i give her a call just to catch up with her since i really havent talked to her in like 5 months. When she answered she seemed extremely unenthusiastic, which really threw me off cause she was so happy to see me before. she just sounded like she did not really want to be talking to me. after a short convo, she said she wants to hang out next week (shes at her beach house right now) but i think she could have just been saying that. so im wondering if anyone can help me figure out whats goin on here cause i would like to try to get back with her.

I'd say that the best thing to do right now is to just play it cool until you meet with her again, and then see where things go from there.
 

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She's PISSED OFF at you because you waited so long to call her. You should have at least called her before you on vacation. she's losing interest in you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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adpreston1988

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Maybe she was just having a really bad day or extremely tired when you called her. It's definitely possible. It's a better sign that she's enthusiastic in person than over the phone. Anyways, I would also just play it cool and not try to make any moves until you're sure she's into you.
 
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