"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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frusciante1234

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hey guys, im new here so whats up

ok, this girl i went out with for a short time last year wants to hang out with me again. but its complicated. First of all, i really liked her and i spent some time trying to get her back but really just pushed her away. so eventually i gave up and haven't talked to her for like 5 months. 2 weeks ago i ran into her and she seemed really happy to see me, gave me a huge hug and the first thing she said to me was that she broke up with her boyfriend. So that seemed like a good sign to me. She told me to call her that night to hang out, but i didnt cause i was busy and had too much **** to do. Then i went on vacation for 2 weeks so i didnt talk to her.

So today i give her a call just to catch up with her since i really havent talked to her in like 5 months. When she answered she seemed extremely unenthusiastic, which really threw me off cause she was so happy to see me before. she just sounded like she did not really want to be talking to me. after a short convo, she said she wants to hang out next week (shes at her beach house right now) but i think she could have just been saying that. so im wondering if anyone can help me figure out whats goin on here cause i would like to try to get back with her.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Mr_rogers

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frusciante1234 said:
hey guys, im new here so whats up

ok, this girl i went out with for a short time last year wants to hang out with me again. but its complicated. First of all, i really liked her and i spent some time trying to get her back but really just pushed her away. so eventually i gave up and haven't talked to her for like 5 months. 2 weeks ago i ran into her and she seemed really happy to see me, gave me a huge hug and the first thing she said to me was that she broke up with her boyfriend. So that seemed like a good sign to me. She told me to call her that night to hang out, but i didnt cause i was busy and had too much **** to do. Then i went on vacation for 2 weeks so i didnt talk to her.

So today i give her a call just to catch up with her since i really havent talked to her in like 5 months. When she answered she seemed extremely unenthusiastic, which really threw me off cause she was so happy to see me before. she just sounded like she did not really want to be talking to me. after a short convo, she said she wants to hang out next week (shes at her beach house right now) but i think she could have just been saying that. so im wondering if anyone can help me figure out whats goin on here cause i would like to try to get back with her.

I'd say that the best thing to do right now is to just play it cool until you meet with her again, and then see where things go from there.
 

GreenManalishi

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She's PISSED OFF at you because you waited so long to call her. You should have at least called her before you on vacation. she's losing interest in you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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adpreston1988

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Maybe she was just having a really bad day or extremely tired when you called her. It's definitely possible. It's a better sign that she's enthusiastic in person than over the phone. Anyways, I would also just play it cool and not try to make any moves until you're sure she's into you.
 
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