"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i don’t like having to answer to a woman

captain55

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Anyone else feel this way? I have a hot submissive girlfriend but she’s a bit too in my business. For example, I will get off the phone with a friend or family member and she will want to know what I talked about. She also wants to literally do everything with me which is starting to get old. Another thing is sometimes she will try to structure out my day for me when I plan my clients etc.

I know I shouldn’t get angry about this, it doesn’t make her a bad person, but I find myself seriously starting to resent her.

Why do I stay and put up with her? Well, the sex is great and she cooks and cleans for me. I But I am seriously at a point where I think I may be happier with a chick a bit more independent and less needy.

help me fellas
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LuksSkywalker

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Anyone else feel this way? I have a hot submissive girlfriend but she’s a bit too in my business. For example, I will get off the phone with a friend or family member and she will want to know what I talked about. She also wants to literally do everything with me which is starting to get old. Another thing is sometimes she will try to structure out my day for me when I plan my clients etc.

I know I shouldn’t get angry about this, it doesn’t make her a bad person, but I find myself seriously starting to resent her.

Why do I stay and put up with her? Well, the sex is great and she cooks and cleans for me. I But I am seriously at a point where I think I may be happier with a chick a bit more independent and less needy.

help me fellas
Did you talk to her about this? If not, talk. Tell her what honestly bothers you. Don't think and guess why she's doing that. Ask and get some answers. People talk too little nowdays. Women are hard to understand even with talking because they say one thing, but do the other but not talking to her will leave you in the dark.
Just talk people, for ****'s sake.
Im telling you this from my own experience. No need for you to do replay my mistakes.
Cheers
 

Ohso-Phresh

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Anyone else feel this way? I have a hot submissive girlfriend but she’s a bit too in my business. For example, I will get off the phone with a friend or family member and she will want to know what I talked about. She also wants to literally do everything with me which is starting to get old. Another thing is sometimes she will try to structure out my day for me when I plan my clients etc.

I know I shouldn’t get angry about this, it doesn’t make her a bad person, but I find myself seriously starting to resent her.

Why do I stay and put up with her? Well, the sex is great and she cooks and cleans for me. I But I am seriously at a point where I think I may be happier with a chick a bit more independent and less needy.

help me fellas
How much time a week do you spend with her?

She sounds like she lives with you.
 

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OP I've had girlfriends do stuff like you describe 2-3 times I can recall. One I remember was "Dang I didn't know you was my boss now I didn't get that memo". Or another time I remember pulling my driver's license out of my wallet and looking at it in front of her going "I just double checked my birth date and it says 1974 which makes me X years old and thus an independent adult who doesn't have to answer to you". Be prepared to pizz her off if you do these, but it worked and made her back off each time that I recall.
 

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OP I've had girlfriends do stuff like you describe 2-3 times I can recall. One I remember was "Dang I didn't know you was my boss now I didn't get that memo". Or another time I remember pulling my driver's license out of my wallet and looking at it in front of her going "I just double checked my birth date and it says 1974 which makes me X years old and thus an independent adult who doesn't have to answer to you". Be prepared to pizz her off if you do these, but it worked and made her back off each time that I recall.
Answering to her leads to her wearing the pants leads to her not finding you sexually attractive.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I always just say "dont worry about it." It's literally an inside joke between us now and even though she says she absolutely HATES that I do that to so many questions, i know it makes me seem mysterious and she secretly loves it. Remember, ladies never want full disclosure.
 

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Anyone else feel this way? I have a hot submissive girlfriend but she’s a bit too in my business. For example, I will get off the phone with a friend or family member and she will want to know what I talked about. She also wants to literally do everything with me which is starting to get old. Another thing is sometimes she will try to structure out my day for me when I plan my clients etc.

I know I shouldn’t get angry about this, it doesn’t make her a bad person, but I find myself seriously starting to resent her.

Why do I stay and put up with her? Well, the sex is great and she cooks and cleans for me. I But I am seriously at a point where I think I may be happier with a chick a bit more independent and less needy.

help me fellas

seems shes a nolife but want chad
 

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I would make a joke of it or not answer her question.
Who are you on the phone with? What are you the phone police?
Who was it? Let me see your badge. Then tickle her and tease her some more.
What did you talk about? Stuff....Man stuff not for the ears of little girls.....
 

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This comeback will work, but if applied with the wrong voice tonality, it will work against you.

You: "Should I pull my wallet and show you my social security card #? I'm guessing that this'll be next."
then give her a friendly smirk and change the subject.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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yep she lives with me. Love her but I’m losing my mind
Sounds like you’ve shacked up with a needy clinger / control freak there. Only you can decide if the current situation is mentally and emotionally healthy for you…
That is what comes first.
 

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Sounds like you’ve shacked up with a needy clinger / control freak there. Only you can decide if the current situation is mentally and emotionally healthy for you…
That is what comes first.
I had a case like this. It worked out really well for me because i had several hobbies i was passionate about outside the house. I was only around her for an hour before bef so she was nice. If i stayed up under her she woulda been trying to control me and we would be fighting alot. We fvcked almost every night. Never was a warzone over sex.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Anyone else feel this way? I have a hot submissive girlfriend but she’s a bit too in my business. For example, I will get off the phone with a friend or family member and she will want to know what I talked about. She also wants to literally do everything with me which is starting to get old. Another thing is sometimes she will try to structure out my day for me when I plan my clients etc.

I know I shouldn’t get angry about this, it doesn’t make her a bad person, but I find myself seriously starting to resent her.

Why do I stay and put up with her? Well, the sex is great and she cooks and cleans for me. I But I am seriously at a point where I think I may be happier with a chick a bit more independent and less needy.

help me fellas
I don't like answering to a woman either. And since my 23 years of slavery ended I don't. And here's a secret. If you don't answer to women and do what you want, you'll have to beat ***** off of your leg with a stick. Not kissing women's asses attracts women.
 

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I don't like answering to a woman either. And since my 23 years of slavery ended I don't. And here's a secret. If you don't answer to women and do what you want, you'll have to beat ***** off of your leg with a stick. Not kissing women's asses attracts women.
Good post brother
 

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Anyone else feel this way? I have a hot submissive girlfriend but she’s a bit too in my business. For example, I will get off the phone with a friend or family member and she will want to know what I talked about. She also wants to literally do everything with me which is starting to get old. Another thing is sometimes she will try to structure out my day for me when I plan my clients etc.

I know I shouldn’t get angry about this, it doesn’t make her a bad person, but I find myself seriously starting to resent her.

Why do I stay and put up with her? Well, the sex is great and she cooks and cleans for me. I But I am seriously at a point where I think I may be happier with a chick a bit more independent and less needy.

help me fellas
You need to put that bytch in check NOW. When she tries to take over or tell you what to do, you say thanks, but I already have a mom. Or, you can say, I got this, I do not need another boss. You need to quit this behavior NOW dude.
 

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I don't like answering to a woman either. And since my 23 years of slavery ended I don't. And here's a secret. If you don't answer to women and do what you want, you'll have to beat ***** off of your leg with a stick. Not kissing women's asses attracts women.
And I thought the movie was "12 years a slave".
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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