"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I discovered an easy way to overcome approach anxiety

Atom Smasher

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Here's a great way to diminish your approach anxiety and get used to talking with women:

Go to church rummage sales on Saturday mornings. There are tons of women there with tables set up, selling their wares. Since they are they're in a "safe", structured environment, they are very open to friendly conversation. Pften, they're so bored having been standing or sitting at their tables all morning that they are extremely welcoming of a nice conversation.

Plus, there are tons of things to talk about. Just pick up an item & ask her a question about it, talk about the whether, ask "How's business today", there are so many conversation starters at your disposal, it's ridiculous.

Married or single, it doesn't matter as you're just getting practice talking with women. Try it... you'll like it. It puts you at ease and lets you get your mind off anxiety and onto the business of refining your conversation skills.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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yyc12

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Yeah, this is similar to the standalone vendors you find in malls as well. Often the women are just sitting there not doing too much of anything. These types are the easiest approaches as there are "props" available for ice breaking.
 
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