"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I Didn't Feel Like Going to the Cinema with Her, Then She Asked Her Ex

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Snow Plowman said:
You have bigger problems than pickup...if you can't go to the movies alone
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Only because it's more fun to bring a date to the movies.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jitterbug said:
Is she the type of person who would have a problem with you going on a date with your ex? Because that's what this is, essentially. Unless you're a really good friend with her ex, this isn't what girls do, when they're in a relationship that they actually value.

Is her ex a guy who showered her with gifts and paid for everything?

In your case, it's a bit too late to voice your disapproval of her going to the cinema with her ex, as you told her you're cool with it, so you'd be going back on your words. Just make sure that kind of disrespect doesn't happen again.
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What I know is that she and that ex became good friend ever since they broke up 2 years ago.

The fact is, I DID voice my disapproval by saying "I'm disappointed that you're going with him before asking for my permission first. But I won't forbid you to go since your friends are all not available."
 
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PHAT Rabbit said:
Anytime your gf brings up the fact that she was with some guy who you know is interested in her - you should use this technique in the logical succession that I have presented it here.
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what if she's with a guy that I'm not sure about whether he's interested or not but made me feel uncomfortable? should I voice my objection?
 
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Fela Kuti said:
what if she's with a guy that I'm not sure about whether he's interested or not but made me feel uncomfortable? should I voice my objection?
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No cause she knows what she is doing you talking about it wont make her care more... Just make sure that you are out partying too.
 
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