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One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

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I Didn't Feel Like Going to the Cinema with Her, Then She Asked Her Ex

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A couple of weeks ago, my GF asked me to accompany her to watch "Jumper". Since I wasn't interested, I told her that I didn't want to, except if my ticket's paid by her. She was disappointed by this. Later that day, she texted me that she's going with her ex because all of her friends were busy. WTF, I think. But then I told her to go ahead since I thought it'd cruel to forbid her when I wasn't available myself, and she asked me first before him.

How did I handle this situation?
 

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Well, since everyone here plays the paranoid card, I'd say, goto the movies, get a ticket, hide in the back in black clothes and spy on her. It'll be like Grade 4 all over again. Give glaring looks at her the whole time. Make sure you wear sun glasses.

Possibly throw popcorn and candy at them.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
A couple of weeks ago, my GF asked me to accompany her to watch "Jumper". Since I wasn't interested, I told her that I didn't want to, except if my ticket's paid by her. She was disappointed by this. Later that day, she texted me that she's going with her ex because all of her friends were busy. WTF, I think. But then I told her to go ahead since I thought it'd cruel to forbid her when I wasn't available myself, and she asked me first before him.

How did I handle this situation?
You've done the right thing! There is no need to feel guilty about it, or fear the any consequences.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DonGorgon said:
Exactly .. Women always have other options when you dont act accordingly.... That andn PU$$Y is how they maintain power in relationships

It's a good thing he didn't take Shyyhs advice and spy. I would have freaked if I was spying on my girl and saw her giving this guy a BJ.
 

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DonGorgon said:
Exactly .. Women always have other options when you dont act accordingly.... That andn PU$$Y is how they maintain power in relationships
so do you thing i didn't act accordingly by refusing to accompany her to watch a movie I wouldn't like that would've costed me some bucks?
 
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Fela Kuti said:
so do you thing i didn't accordingly by refusing to accompany her to watch a movie I wouldn't like that would've costed me some bucks?

If she asked you to the movie, she has to pay. Whoever asks pays the fee. Is she broke or something?
 

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Fela Kuti said:
so do you thing i didn't act accordingly by refusing to accompany her to watch a movie I wouldn't like that would've costed me some bucks?
That is subjective to women not acting accordingly means not doing what they want when they want for as long as they want....

You should do what you think you need to do to get what you want from her.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
If she asked you to the movie, she has to pay. Whoever asks pays the fee. Is she broke or something?
I've already proposed this idea to her but she said that it'd be useless/unfair since she's willing to watch any movie and pay for it, unlike me.
 

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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Fela Kuti said:
I've already proposed this idea to her but she said that it'd be useless/unfair since she's willing to watch any movie and pay for it, unlike me.

Then why are you *****ing about having to pay if she is willing?
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Then why are you *****ing about having to pay if she is willing?
Enough bullying the kid, his a bit confused. His done nothing wrong, his just not sure his done the right thing which is driving him wild.

Hey you did the right thing!

Even if she gives the ex, head, oral or the whole body work up, it'll be good riddance to the worthless beatch when you find out.

Stick to your guns, be a man, don't allow yourself to shiver over something this small.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Then why are you *****ing about having to pay if she is willing?
I think you misunderstood what I was trying to say or I didn't made myself clear (English is not my first language). Either way, I'll re-explain the situation:

1) She said that she's willing to pay for HERSELF for every movie I'm going to ask her to go to because she's basically interested on all kinds of film. So she rejected the idea that I proposed because it will only work for my advantage since I'm the one who's selective about what movie to watch.

2) I proposed the idea AFTER I rejected her offer to watch Jumper.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
I can't go to a cinema by myself, too. In fact, who could? Must be rare.
I can, and I know plenty of people, women included, who do. It's not that rare. In a cinema, you don't talk to anyone, so there's no difference whether you're there by yourself or with someone else.

I think your GF is just using "my friends are all busy" as an excuse to hang out with her ex and to "punish" you. It is very disrespectful. If she highly valued your relationship, she would never do this just because she wanted to see a crappy movie.
 

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Punishing? Yeah, I thought about that too! It's her way of revenge, I think. But believe me, she's not the type of person who'd go to a cinema alone. She'd rather not watching a movie rather than to watch it alone.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
Punishing? Yeah, I thought about that too! It's her way of revenge, I think. But believe me, she's not the type of person who'd go to a cinema alone. She'd rather not watching a movie rather than to watch it alone.
Is she the type of person who would have a problem with you going on a date with your ex? Because that's what this is, essentially. Unless you're a really good friend with her ex, this isn't what girls do, when they're in a relationship that they actually value.

Is her ex a guy who showered her with gifts and paid for everything?

In your case, it's a bit too late to voice your disapproval of her going to the cinema with her ex, as you told her you're cool with it, so you'd be going back on your words. Just make sure that kind of disrespect doesn't happen again.
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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