I Didn't Feel Like Going to the Cinema with Her, Then She Asked Her Ex

[Fela Kuti]

A couple of weeks ago, my GF asked me to accompany her to watch "Jumper". Since I wasn't interested, I told her that I didn't want to, except if my ticket's paid by her. She was disappointed by this. Later that day, she texted me that she's going with her ex because all of her friends were busy. WTF, I think. But then I told her to go ahead since I thought it'd cruel to forbid her when I wasn't available myself, and she asked me first before him.

How did I handle this situation?

 

[Shyyhs]

Well, since everyone here plays the paranoid card, I'd say, goto the movies, get a ticket, hide in the back in black clothes and spy on her. It'll be like Grade 4 all over again. Give glaring looks at her the whole time. Make sure you wear sun glasses.

Possibly throw popcorn and candy at them.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Sounds like she sucked his d!ck in the movie theater.

 

[ZenGodMod]

A couple of weeks ago, my GF asked me to accompany her to watch "Jumper". Since I wasn't interested, I told her that I didn't want to, except if my ticket's paid by her. She was disappointed by this. Later that day, she texted me that she's going with her ex because all of her friends were busy. WTF, I think. But then I told her to go ahead since I thought it'd cruel to forbid her when I wasn't available myself, and she asked me first before him.

How did I handle this situation?

You've done the right thing! There is no need to feel guilty about it, or fear the any consequences.

 

[DonGorgon]

Sounds like she sucked his d!ck in the movie theater.

Exactly .. Women always have other options when you dont act accordingly.... That andn PU$$Y is how they maintain power in relationships

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Exactly .. Women always have other options when you dont act accordingly.... That andn PU$$Y is how they maintain power in relationships

It's a good thing he didn't take Shyyhs advice and spy. I would have freaked if I was spying on my girl and saw her giving this guy a BJ.

 

[Fela Kuti]

Exactly .. Women always have other options when you dont act accordingly.... That andn PU$$Y is how they maintain power in relationships

so do you thing i didn't act accordingly by refusing to accompany her to watch a movie I wouldn't like that would've costed me some bucks?

 

[My Name is Nobody]

so do you thing i didn't accordingly by refusing to accompany her to watch a movie I wouldn't like that would've costed me some bucks?

If she asked you to the movie, she has to pay. Whoever asks pays the fee. Is she broke or something?

 

[DonGorgon]

so do you thing i didn't act accordingly by refusing to accompany her to watch a movie I wouldn't like that would've costed me some bucks?

That is subjective to women not acting accordingly means not doing what they want when they want for as long as they want....

You should do what you think you need to do to get what you want from her.

 

[Fela Kuti]

If she asked you to the movie, she has to pay. Whoever asks pays the fee. Is she broke or something?

I've already proposed this idea to her but she said that it'd be useless/unfair since she's willing to watch any movie and pay for it, unlike me.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I've already proposed this idea to her but she said that it'd be useless/unfair since she's willing to watch any movie and pay for it, unlike me.

Then why are you *****ing about having to pay if she is willing?

 

[ZenGodMod]

Then why are you *****ing about having to pay if she is willing?

Enough bullying the kid, his a bit confused. His done nothing wrong, his just not sure his done the right thing which is driving him wild.

Hey you did the right thing!

Even if she gives the ex, head, oral or the whole body work up, it'll be good riddance to the worthless beatch when you find out.

Stick to your guns, be a man, don't allow yourself to shiver over something this small.

 

[DonGorgon]

...when you find out..

Many people never ever find out about the indiscressions of their mate...

 

[Fela Kuti]

Then why are you *****ing about having to pay if she is willing?

I think you misunderstood what I was trying to say or I didn't made myself clear (English is not my first language). Either way, I'll re-explain the situation:

1) She said that she's willing to pay for HERSELF for every movie I'm going to ask her to go to because she's basically interested on all kinds of film. So she rejected the idea that I proposed because it will only work for my advantage since I'm the one who's selective about what movie to watch.

2) I proposed the idea AFTER I rejected her offer to watch Jumper.

 

[Mr. Me]

Why couldn't she go by herself?

 

[Fela Kuti]

Why couldn't she go by herself?

I can't go to a cinema by myself, too. In fact, who could? Must be rare.

 

[Jitterbug]

I can't go to a cinema by myself, too. In fact, who could? Must be rare.

I can, and I know plenty of people, women included, who do. It's not that rare. In a cinema, you don't talk to anyone, so there's no difference whether you're there by yourself or with someone else.

I think your GF is just using "my friends are all busy" as an excuse to hang out with her ex and to "punish" you. It is very disrespectful. If she highly valued your relationship, she would never do this just because she wanted to see a crappy movie.

 

[Fela Kuti]

Punishing? Yeah, I thought about that too! It's her way of revenge, I think. But believe me, she's not the type of person who'd go to a cinema alone. She'd rather not watching a movie rather than to watch it alone.

 

[Jitterbug]

Punishing? Yeah, I thought about that too! It's her way of revenge, I think. But believe me, she's not the type of person who'd go to a cinema alone. She'd rather not watching a movie rather than to watch it alone.

Is she the type of person who would have a problem with you going on a date with your ex? Because that's what this is, essentially. Unless you're a really good friend with her ex, this isn't what girls do, when they're in a relationship that they actually value.

Is her ex a guy who showered her with gifts and paid for everything?

In your case, it's a bit too late to voice your disapproval of her going to the cinema with her ex, as you told her you're cool with it, so you'd be going back on your words. Just make sure that kind of disrespect doesn't happen again.

 

[Snow Plowman]

I can't go to a cinema by myself, too. In fact, who could? Must be rare.

You have bigger problems than pickup...if you can't go to the movies alon